I was at an Internet cafe the other day and noticed something worth sharing with you.
Seated next to me in the next computer cubicle was a very lovely lady in her mid 20′s.
Now because we were seated so closely to each other and because there was only a tiny partition between each cubicle… Everyone could easily see what everybody else was doing.
Now let me say first off that I respect people’s privacy but when you are in this situation it’s pretty hard NOT to see what the other person is doing on their computer.
Anyways this lady was busy navigating her way through an American dating site and corresponding with a gentlemen who had listed his profile online.
Now even though I personally believe that there is no real substitute for actually going out into the world and meeting prospective dates in person..
I’m not blind to the fact that this is still a positive thing since the spread of the internet gives a growing number of these ladies more chances to expand their relationship choices beyond their hometown.
Now seeing any lady in an internet cafe combing through online profiles of men outside her own country is certainly nothing new.
In fact it seems that whenever I come into one of these cafes the majority of the girls browsing the web are usually on one of these sites.
Now what was interesting about this particular moment was watching the amount of effort and patience this lady had as she worked on her correspondence.
It was interesting because see she was doing her best to type this email in ENGLISH..
One extremely slow hunt and peck letter at a time.
Armed only with an English to Russian dictionary sitting on her lap.. this woman was completely determined to do her best to communicate to this man in his own native language.
I openly thought to myself just how many Men out there could or would do the same for any woman over here?
I just occasionally observed her and really respected what she was attempting to do because it must have taken nearly an hour for her to compose just one small paragraph.
But even with all of this.. there wasn’t the slightest sign of fatigue or frustration on her beautiful face.
Just a dogged determination to get through this in-order to not keep her potential suitor waiting too long for her message.
Now when you witness something like this I believe its pretty normal to make some conclusions as to what this lady’s overall character is like.
First off..
You truly hope that she finds someone that makes her happy and with whom she can start a family with because she certainly deserves it.
Second..
You realize that if she puts this kind of effort into even the simplest correspondence then she’s probably going to have a similar level of patience, determination and dedication towards her future husband and children.
In any-case this lady and I coincidentally ended up finishing our business at the same time.
She went to the cashier first.. paid for her online minutes.. and then put on her heavy winter coat, scarf, head cover and gloves..
When she was finished she then pulled open the solid metal double paneled door which protected the room from the elements outside and made her exit.
I did the same and followed her out only a few seconds later.
As I went outside I found myself standing on a street corner just watching this lady with respect and wonder as she briskly walked on the thick sheets of ice which sat on top of the broken-up sidewalk below.
And without any effort she traversed this obstacle course while wearing a fashionable pair of immaculately polished high heeled winter boots.
She was trying to make her way home as she exhaled a uniform trail of small puffy white clouds which quickly dissipated into the subzero air.
A delicate and feminine figure disappearing down the street..
..and into the frozen darkness of the night.
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Such a lovely and romantic situation you describe RW. I imagine my dear doing the same as I do for her.
So many romantics in our world and so few to experince the joy and feelings that it can bring.
You are awesome dude, thanks for posting.
RW,
Thanks for sharing your observational experience with the young woman. I hope her diligence is rewarded with the mate of her dreams.
On a personal note, I have corresponded off and on with several FSU women via an agency for several months now. My experience with the women and the agency has been exceptional.
I meet relatively nice women here in the U.S. regularly, but, unfortunately, the women my age(age 47) have one or more failed marriages behind them, and have no desire to have more children. Thankfully, much younger women in Russia/FSU are not concerned about a significant age gap, and are not shy about saying so.
At any rate, it’s been fun learning about a vastly different culture through the exchange of letters, phone conversations, and vehicles such as your blog. I look forward to a possible trip that way in the coming months.
So tell us what sites are these FSU women frequenting!! Ill be sure to have my profile up and running with Gimn Sovetskogo Soyuza playing in the background!!
I have say after reading few post here, western women are really messed up.
Guess this, I was accused of sexual assault by drunk women after i tap her on her shoulders and now i have 5K legal fees ahead.
I think the women’s movement in western countries had just gone too far!
For anyone who is interested, I am doing documentary on my case and you follow it here:
http://journey.blogsavy.com
Greetings Jacque LeMoose,
Yes I can certainly imagine your lovely lady doing the exact same thing if you are keeping in touch with each other via email.
Nice to realize just how much effort on their part goes into something most of us would completely take for granted.
GL
Thanks Josh..
I’m sure your an “awesome dude” too
Hi Sam,
Happy to hear that you are enjoying the first part of the journey you are taking towards an FSU woman.
I think you are very wise to avoid the “relatively nice” ladies in the US with one or more failed marriages behind them.
The term “emotional baggage” unfortunately often has too much truth in these cases.
Good luck on your travels to the FSU. Please keep us informed on how that goes.
GL
Hi Matt,
Yandex.ru and mail.ru are 2 of the most popular sites in Russia and the FSU for placing personals.
However these sites are all in Russian so you will need to either get a good Russian translator or try your luck with some translation program to communicate..
Good Luck..
GL
Hi Charles,
I’m sure this situation must really suck..
But trust me on this one.. be VERY glad you weren’t married or in a serious relationship with any girl like this who is dying to scream abuse if you so much as sneeze.
Thanks your lucky stars for the relatively “cheap” lesson you are learning now..
Take care of yourself..
GL
A warning to gentlemen going to join a Russian-language dating site. (For the Ukrainian pool: Bigmir.net – more serious, Gala.net – more frivolous)
If a site is evidently targeted nationally, a foreign man would look a maverick there. So it would take extra care to present oneself as a “white crow” in a good sense, not as a “black sheep”.
I mean, no haste. A good photo, a complete profile, a substantial, flowing self-description in fine language, English or Russian.
Brisk scribbles are deleted with disgust. “Ah, another ***er!” inviting but pros and scammers. So are texts processed by the “robot intelligence”.
Machine translators excrete your message emasculated, depersonalized, and mutilated to such absurdity that now and then even a polyglot can’t make out its meaning.
I hope this example would motivate you to stay true to your native language or engage a human translator.
http://russianwomenspeak.wordpress.com/2006/12/14/do-never-use-mwhat-reason-not-to-use-machine-translation-of-letters-into-russian/
Sincerely,
Comrade Natalia
Natalia, you sound just like my German teacher. She warned us that it’s very easy to identify writing that was done using a machine translator.
Hi Natalia,
Thanks for the valuable advice on that one.. I think the Men on this side of the world might be interested in that option because at the very least they know that there are probably a lack of scammers there. GL
It’s been awhile since I came to this site. Great Russian women photos you have as usual.
You mention in this article, its cold in Siberia. I heard they had the coldest weather just recently down to -58 degrees Celsius.
It is also cold and freezing here in North America and where I live, we have the most snowfall in the first two weeks of February.
I think we have Global Cooling as you can read here http://www.dailytech.com/Temperature+Monitors+Report+Worldwide+Global+Cooling/article10866.htm
I’ll keep coming back to view your wonderful site.
I’m Filipino (Philippines) and this story reminds me of my own experiences in my own country. Often it happens at the internet cafes in the poor places of my country, I see women chatting with Americans by webcam.
I remember once seeing a girl chatting with her young American boyfriend, I was touched by their faith in each other. Other times I’ve seen women looking for opportunity with dreams of a foreign husband, sometimes they are outcasts or sometimes girls that are not serious, but only seeking anonymous approval from foreign men. They say foreigners have different taste with women, it shows because I’ve never seen one that was attractive by popular Filipino standards.
I had before lived in a very poor area and had college girl neighbors. They were pangit by Filipino standards however they attracted a number of different western men using their home computer and webcam. Over time they had a lot of new things piling up and there was no explanation for it. My advise is not to send money to anybody you “meet” on the internet.
The things you have seen in your country that happen on the internet are very common throughout the world. The Philippines, South Africa, and all throughout the FSU there are thousands of people using the internet dating world as a way to extort money from uninformed and desperate individuals searching for romance. Possibly the most degrading of all internet scams are those which take advantage of someone’s kind heart or naive soul.
The majority, by far, of all the names and faces you see on internet dating sites are just casual and pretty innocent people who are very unlikely to make any real connection with anyone else online.
On the other hand, the most serious of all people listed on any of these sites are purely criminal and only exist to prey on those who are either too trusting or too foolish to play in such a dangerous arena.
One recent study of online dating demographics found nearly as many false profiles as legitimate ones, even though the sites that were being reviewed were some of the least known. But even some of the most popular and recognizable dating sites have a very high turn around of new enrollment and often one person will open several profiles simultaneously in an attempt to keep more visibility while staying ahead of the site’s regulations.
You are absolutely right about never sending gifts or money to ANYONE you “meet” online. If you would try to buy romance in your own home town you would end up hurt and disappointed. Trying to buy a relationship over the www can only end up worse.
Hi GL, I like what you have going here! I am in America and am corresponding with a woman that lives in Dzerzhinsk. Its been going on for almost 2 months. I’ve done some reading here and a bit of research about scammers. I am leery and will not send money. A trip someday sounds cool. Im wondering if you or anyone here has heard of a couple of anti-scam books out. One is “anti-scam guide” you can get through elenasmodels.com for $24.95, the other one is “the definitive guide to safe and successful russian dating online” $39.99. put out by Nina Novikova at russiandatingguide.com. I haven’t purchased them and was wondering if anyone here has info on them before I spend the money. Any advise or comments are appreciated. Thanks…Chris
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