Yes, I think this pickup stuff is really getting people relationships they dont’ belong in. This guy I was dating for a week revealed to me he uses this site pickupmastery.com to seduce girls in bars. I would have never talked to this guy had I known that. But since he covered it up I ended up sleeping with him. Ugh… that David D guy is even worse. – from Belflower
It’s sad isn’t it…
That we as a society focus so much on the fastest way to GET OFF..
But not the Best way to GET LOVE.
I think you ladies are especially at a loss when you are sucked into a game like this.
Sex with someone you don’t love can be a cheap thrill but it’s a very dissatisfying experience. It may nourish your Ego for the short term but it actually depletes your Soul. One of the biggest problems I see is that using sex to boost ones ego is really no different from how a drug addict uses cocaine or meth to try to feel like some Super Hero character.
Sure it feels great but then when you crash you are busy looking for your next hit.. again and again and again..
Life passes you by and so does the opportunity to find true love.
I wonder how much real love can be created if we were able to migrate away from the time, energy, and money that we spend on getting sex and spend all of those resources on creating love instead..
Now the good news for you Belflower is I get the feeling that you are an attractive girl given the fact that you have some guy trying to pull Speed Seduction or Pickup Strategies on you.
And I’m going to be honest with you because as an attractive woman you have power in this society. How you choose to wield it will determine your ability to find true love or not.
Unfortunately a majority of attractive American Women I’ve met DO NOT know how to handle this power responsibly.. and in many cases their beauty may give them short term benefits.. but more often then not it turns into a long term curse.
There are just simply too many defensive and empty women who walks through life with a chip on their shoulder. I imagine that trying to warm up to a girl like that would be like trying to give a hug to a desert cactus.
Not a very pleasant thought no matter how good your “pickup techniques” were right?
Now a cactus is a very tough and durable plant but quite frankly they’ve always kinda struck me as looking pretty lonely wouldn’t you say?
Unfortunately this seems to be the status quo in the US and other Western Countries.
Now compare this situation to a woman who I truly respected..
Someone like Princess Diana.
She knew she was beautiful but she also possessed something far more valuable..
And that was Grace and Purpose..
No matter what personal problems she faced.. she was still able to harness this along with her beauty to the greater benefit of mankind.
And for this we loved and adored her.
Now I will never say that Russia is completely populated with women like Princess Diana. But there are certainly many like her here. And I’d honestly be surprised if any visitor who came here DIDN’T meet more then a few ladies that didn’t remind them of someone like Lady Di.
Perhaps a Lady that left an indelible impression on them.
Maybe even a Lady they were truly honored to meet… for when she walked away they would catch themselves quietly saying..
“Now THAT was a Real Woman..”
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more bad news from mother russia. the population of russia shrank by 348,700 people in the first six months of 2006. source: http://www.einnews.com/russia
I find ‘Belflowers’ comment stunning. You slept with the guy and you regret it because he used some technique on you? Here is a clue – Who fell for it? How many decent men have you heaped scorn on? So some thug picks you up using a technique. You get the men you deserve.
When dealing with women, espcially members of the Anglosphere remember this simple line from the movie “As Good as Its Gets” when Jack Nicholson’s character Melvin Udall is asked a question about how he can write women so well…
Melvin Udall: “I think of a man and then I take away REASON and ACCOUNTABILITY.”
Live by that simple line when dealing with women, but do not be condescending or haughty.
The woman in the article should have used reason if the guy was using a technique by asking direct questions and then watch his responses. Then the woman is angry because she fell for the technique and is angry at the man for using her as a one night stand. Zero accountability. Blame the guy, blame the technique and finally blame the author.
Did this happen at a club or a bar? What are the odds of finding a guy using some pick up line for a one night stand???
Hi Guys..
I agree with you guys about the personal responsibility part but I’d also like to give Belflower credit for being honest and laying it out.
We are all learning.. and I can clearly see that so is she..
And as long as there is an open mind I’m more then happy to share a drink with her anytime. Lord knows some of us men has had our share of youthful foolishness too and hopefully we are all wiser from it and can spread the word.
Thanks for the Comments
Hi Dave,
Thanks for posting that statistic. That’s nearly 2000 Russians a day who are gone from this population. Not a good situation at all..
One of the few things that will help is the work that we are doing here. So keep it up big guy..
The statistics on Russia don’t surprise me. It seems the economic situation and sometimes political has become drastic. We can only hope things turn around for the better.
Hi datingdork,
Thanks for joining us. Yes one can only hope that enough people will wake up and clearly realize what works for them and what doesn’t.
Please tell your friends about us.
GL
I used to be a triathlete and when you traind for swimming you always hear that if you train for speed you will be fast, if you train for distance, you will endure. I think the same thing applies to everything in life, you cannot compare speed seduction with actual seduction. One takes a few minutes the other maybe a few months. Like with anything in life you will get out what you put in. You cant expect to harvest much from a garden you barely tend to, but on the other hand plant a garden with dedication and love and it will reward you.
Relationships are no different, you will get what you put into it. And you cant expect to get a different result if you keep doing the same thing over and over again, be it keep dating americans or stick to speed seduction.
Dont get me wrong, speed seduction is very interesting stuff, but a tool is only as good as the person using it. So use it responsibly or karma will come back to bite your tush.
Hi T.
If you are taking a few months out to seduce a lady wouldn’t a better word for that be “romance” instead?
Thanks for the comment. GL
Sorry for the inconsistencies in language. Even though I speak good english it is not my first language so at times I cant find the right word for what I am trying to express. Thank you so much for the correction.
T.
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