Likewise..
If you want an Interesting Girl.. Be an Interesting Guy..
Or..
If you want a Incredible Relationship.. Make sure you know what it takes to have an Incredible Relationship..
And the list goes on and on..
So besides the obvious.. why are these points so relevant in your search for some incredible woman on this side of the world?
Simple..
It’s because I can see a clear difference between the Men with the right magic who have successful relationships..
And the ones that don’t.
So what is this magic you ask?
It’s called..
S A C R I F I C E..
So let me elaborate..
We Men are naturally creatures of habit.. the older we get the more we tend to look at ourselves and the world in a particular way..
And too often this way is Fixed..
Static, Stagnant, Dead, or whatever you want to call it..
In our ideal fantasy.. we are Kings of our Castle and we just need our future Queen to have the “right” mental attitude..
And of course that attitude is for her to know that we are ALWAYS RIGHT.. (Right???)
Or better yet..
We just want Someone to “Love and Accept” us “just the way we are”..
But in the back of our heads we are also thinking..
“Yeah AND I also want her to be a Beauty Queen and Sex Goddess too!”
So are you Gentlemen starting to see the “Disconnect” in this all too common perception?
Or in the infinitely wise words of my Navy Seal friend..
“Everybody Always Wants Something for NOTHING..”
So it’s Real Simple and Clear Gentlemen..
The Men who come here wanting “Something for Nothing” and who are unwilling to make significant sacrifices to achieve their dreams always end up failing.
Even if they “get” the Girl they dreamed about we are still looking at a “delayed failure” down the road.
Let me give you a silly little example..
When I was a kid I used to dream about having my own Jet Fighter..
The F-15 had just been introduced and it was the “baddest” looking flying machine I had ever seen in my life.. And someday I wanted to have a Real One!
So as a teenager when I became a little bit “older and wiser” I started to realize..
“Hmm maybe owning an F-15 is going to be pretty tough to do..”
- There are dozens of hours of maintenance time required for every single hour of flight time..
- Where am I going to keep this thing?
- How am I going to get one?
- How am I going to learn how to take care of it.. let alone fly it?
- How am I going to afford thousands of gallons of military grade Jet Fuel?
- Do I need to get insurance for this thing?
- What would the neighbors think?
Starting to get it?
Because even if this F-15 magically materialized in my backyard.. I would still be TOTALLY Screwed..
So as a result of these realizations..
I settled with the idea that the meticulously assembled and painted 1:48 scale Revell model still sitting in my closest is probably going to be the closest I ever get towards owning an F-15.
Likewise the Guys who come out here believing that they can get an “F-15″ for cheap are in for a rude surprise..
And unfortunately instead of looking at themselves and admitting to their own childish naivete’ many of them end up bad mouthing the Girls and this whole process when they inevitably fail.
It’s a little like the spoiled kid who never studies.. fails the exam.. and then blames the teacher..
Did any of you ever know a teacher who gave good marks to any kid who failed an exam and had a spoiled attitude on top of it?
I’m guessing probably not.. But at the same time there will always be a percentage of Men who come over thinking that money alone without any efforts towards self-improvement on their part will allow them to capture the heart of their “Perfect 10″.
So by now we should all understand that this is the oldest game in the book.. because Money is simply NO SUBSTITUTE for the Irreplaceable Manly Virtues of..
- Effort
- Character
- Humility
- Sincerity
- Class
- Cultivation
So when these “Gentlemen” go in and date women as if they were prostitutes..
Guess what kind of Woman they end up attracting and having in their lives?
Not a pretty picture of marital bliss I assure you.
So when I hear stories about Guys who have been “burned” by their efforts in searching for a Beautiful Russian Wife.. I never really focus on the “evil woman” who “did” this..
Instead I always focus and start asking questions in my mind about HIM..
“Just what did he do to screw this up?”
I ask these questions because at some point all of us have to take responsibility for any of the “misfortunes” that have “happened” in our lives..
And as strange as this may sound there is a very deep and empowering truth behind it..
It’s because this is the only way we Men can move our lives forward in order to achieve our Real Dreams.
We simply attract what we are along our given levels of Class and Cultivation..
We sure as Hell can’t change the “Bad Girls” in this world. And wasting any more time and energy on being bitter towards them AIN’T Gonna Do Anything…
No Gentlemen the only factor that you have any control over in changing has always been the same..
Because it’s YOU..
So unless you are able to walk on water keep this very simple concept in mind..
- Don’t change.. come over.. and get ready to FAIL..
OR
- Take a real and honest look at yourself… as hard as that may be..
- Own and take responsibility for it..
- Make the adjustments you need to make..
- Then come over.. and get ready to FLOURISH..
Now saying this I’d like to add one final point..
Sometimes we all need some inspiration to know what is possible in our lives before we are actually able to take the bull by the horns and do what’s needed..
For many Men including myself this inspiration came by taking that very first trip to Russia to see, hear and feel with my own senses what these Women were truly like.
Because once you allow that Intrepid Explorer that exists in every one of you to come out and see the “Real World”.
Your path is forever set..
And the Determination, Will and Energy you need to summon to make the right changes in your life becomes that much easier to do..
More than Half the Battle is already won when you reach this and realize that any ambiguity that may have clouded your judgement in the past..
..is now thankfully gone..
And you are instead left with a new found peace and a priceless “Moment of Clarity” that will not easily leave you..
It’s because this “Moment of Clarity” is one of those BIG THINGS in Life that you’ve always wanted..
It’s simply the realization that although you may not have actually met your future wife yet..
You at least finally know that SHE IS HERE.
And “Her” energy permeates almost everywhere you travel throughout Russia as you “Feel” and realize the reality behind this Gigantic Potential.
If you do what comes Naturally and Surrender yourself to this..
Then I am sure that you will move Heaven and Earth to complete it.
And any changes that need to be done to make it happen will suddenly pall in comparison to the future that you are building for yourself…
… and for Her too.
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I appreciate this advisory, well written.
May I add some random thoughts.
I would recommend a man of character would include to have great ‘self’ respect and integrity.
He would have or seek to have ‘purpose’ in life.
He would have or develope good ‘listening skills’.
Its true..
Before you even think about marrying a girl you have to develop yourself first. I am still working on that.
–Luke Skywalker
Must agree with everything you wrote, and I particularly like the last “final point” part. It can not be emphasised enough that your first trip to Russia or a FSU country will “blow your mind”. If it doesn’t, you must be brain dead, and you’re certainly looking in the wrong part of the world for your future wife! My first trip was a truly life-changing and beautiful experience, for many reasons. Do your research, prepare yourself, and importantly, open your mind – you will be forever changed.
Natalia’s Hat Off!
Or, quoting a Russian poet…
“The womenfolk exclaimed “Hurrah!”
And tossed headwears into the air.”
(Modern parodysts substituted lingerie into the last line.))))
Thunderlike applause.
Curtain.
Umm err RW_Man what do you mean: Sacrifices?
Because I make an effort everyday to be friendly and nice to anyone regardless of whether they are rude or “my enemy” I practice these principles daily:
# Effort
# Character
# Humility
# Sincerity
# Class
# Cultivation (“life is what you make of it”- frame of mind)
So Thank You for the article and the insight.
From C.
I think that one of the sacrifices that one could make is to leave the US behind and move to Siberia for the rest of one’s life. That would be a sacrifice.
Also, GL, how did you get all that stuff on a header at the top of your blog. Like the “Home”, “About”, “Contents”, “Banned Award”, etc.
–Luke Skywalker
Good day to every one!
GL, you have put together thoughts provoking concepts and mostly inspiring for us seeking our other half whom I call “My Siberian Princess”.
There are moments, I feel indeed that too much day dreaming among my brethren & I becomes habits, because this is about the only thing I consider free ( NO FREE LUNCH HERE!). And too much of these leads us nowhere but just plain old procrastinations, gray hair, belly south and northbound hairlines.
Any one should have a business plan.
-Mission /Mission statement:
To be with my Russian princess
-Strategic:
Point A to Point B (time, money and other resources) to achieve mission/vision of My Princess
Analysis: (SWOT)—Our strength, weaknesses, opportunities and threats in going to Siberia.
GL, thank you much.
My best to all.
Amorcito
Hello Amorcito,
You have the right attitude and ideas. A Personal Plan is actually a great way to look at this because it will get you centered and focused on the real issues and requirements.
Please keep commenting and gracing us with your insight as well.
GL
Hi Ceiver,
Thanks for the comment and please feel free to add other characteristics that you feel are beneficial to what I am trying to say here.
Self-Respect, Integrity, Purpose, and Listening Skills are all great ones..
GL
Hi Natalia..
Wow.. I’m happy I’m getting applause from you! I guess I must have said something good for a change right?
GL
Hi C,
All the things you mention are important. I’m just trying to emphasize that there are many other things I’m sure any man can think of doing to improve and prepare himself for this trip especially since he will be stepping into an “alien” world. Obviously reading this blog should really help along with any other effort he can put into this to increase his cultural awareness and cultivation as a Man in a way that he can make that part of his identity.
Having the right mindset and attitude about this is really the most important thing as opposed to any specific item of self-improvement that needs to be done.
GL
Hello Shaun Alexander,
Thanks for joining us with your comments..
I’ve checked out your blog and I’m happy to see another site such as yours advocating this movement.. Please feel free to link to me and I will do the same for you.
GL
Even as a woman I’m practicing these
Problem is that I’m still a little, not “ugly”, but undesirable from everyones point of view (still packing on an extra few pounds). It’s hard to look in the mirror and say “I need to lose weight” instead of the matra of “I’m fine the way I am and any man who doesn’t love me doesn’t deserve me!”. I know since there are so few women who practice these virtues, that I can get almost anyone; but I don’t want to feel like the girl everyone resorts to because no one else is good enough~
Besides, just another 15 pounds to go and I’ll fit in this cute dress my friend got me :B
Good day to you Kara,
A deserving man of honest and descent character will always look into your eyes and seek what’s hidden in your heart
Amorcito
No dear GL, when I burst into applause you can be sure I can’t help it )))
(probably should re-run over your blog and distribute stamps of approval kinda “Admired by Russian Women Association”, LOL!)
…hi Luke, flattered by a link from you )
…and here is some algorythm for Classy Guys out for Classy Girls.
http://russianwomenspeak.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/fast-find-the-right-one-russian-bride-know-how-procedure/
Enjoy yourselves!
Sincerely, Comrade Natalia.
Simple
If you want a princess, become a prince.
…the first step is a commitment to understand yourself first, work on your flaws and then move to understand women…
This could take time and effort because you’ll have to face all your inner demons and this is the struggle for wisdom.
…and be a man
Au plaisir
Ignacio
Luke
I suggest you check some David DeAngelo products…When I started looking for self-help guides the progress were dramatically increased when I found his material. I don’t like very much his marketing style because he talks more about pick-up than inner-stuff.
I’d recommend his “On Being A Man…”
…worth the money
Agreed, Ignacio. I liked his tapes for the tips on how to break the ice and have friendly funny conversations with girls.
Kara, You’ve got the right attitude. Nasty skanky ego oriented women are completely cheap commodities simply because there are so many of them.
Be the complete opposite of this and you will shine I’m sure..
as far as your weight is concerned 15 lbs ain’t too bad.. I’m sure you can do it.. I’m a big fan of high protein diets myself along with daily exercise. GL
And is it possible .. just possible.. that that 15 lbs. is only in your mind? Lots of men like a woman with a real woman’s body.
(If Hollywood got ahold of Marilyn Monroe today, she’d come out looking like Callista Flockhart.)
But at least in Russia, your hard work and sacrifice will have a huge payoff. Unlike here where you can work your butt off and your only reward is a useless old skank.
Good point, Craig. I think Beyonce has one of the best bodies in Hollywood.
Thanks GL. Consider yourself linked.
And just on the skank issue… I know local girls (and when I say “girls” I’m talking 29 or older, and usually divorced), who act like a skank because they think that’s what attracts the guys! Of course for the guys they truly desire for a relationship, they are sending the exact opposite signals to what they should, and they wonder why they are never taken seriously. Of course, try telling them….
Thank You GL (RW_Man) for your response.
Obviously reading this blog should really help (Yes it does) along with any other effort he can put into this to increase his cultural awareness (You have to think in Russian “so to speak” By the way that was from the Movie: Firefox) and cultivation as a Man in a way that he can make that part of his identity(to affirm his identity).
Having the right mindset and attitude about this is really the most important thing as opposed to any specific item of self-improvement that needs to be done (But it all comes together; the principles and the proper attitude at the same time).
*(what I would add to clarify this for me)
I don’t know if Russians are so “alien” as you describe it, I’m sure we have interesting differences in culture and customs.
This Blog deals with the finer points of RW, but GL are there also these kinds of women in other eastern european and central asian locations as well? for e.g. Czechoslovakia, Poland, Ukraine and Kazakhstan etcetera,.
C, remember that Ukraine, Kazakhstan and the other other FSU countries are just that – formerly part of the USSR, ie you could call them “Russian culture coutries”.
Not only do they have a large number of people who are enthnic Russian, but a population who grew-up in the Soviet system (and even for the non ethnic Russian people – things don’t change overnight).
You may find this interesting:
http://russianwomen4westernmen.blogspot.com/2007/01/russian-brides-outside-russia.html
And it will be followed-up, for the obvious reasons stated in the post.
GL, I have some bad news.
I was looking around wordpress and there was a blog in which some feminists said that they wanted to “destroy the patriarchy” and they said that they wanted to get rid of football because they think that it’s part of the partriarchy. You said once before that football is your favorite sport, and also I played football when I was in high school.
Also, I think that I got banned from blog of the day, too, because I definately should have gotten on Fastest Growing Blogs again. I got on Fastest Growing Blogs for a gain of 81 views to 128 views a couple days ago. And the day before that for going from 32 views to 81 views. Yesterday, I made a colossal gain from 130 views to 228 views. That should have gotten me on there for sure, but it just didnt. Additionally, I couldn’t find the two other times that I was on Fastest Growing Blogs on the archives at all, so I think the feminists who run WordPress took them off of there. I know that Fastest Growing Blogs is probably the least prestigious award on Blogs Of The Day, but it still meant a lot to me because I worked very hard to tell all those students and to put links on places on the internet. I am wiser than most college students, but I wasn’t as wise as you to get a screenshot of it immediately like you did when you were on Bestblog.
–Luke Skywalker
Hi Shaun,
Your link is up on my links page. Thanks again for link exchanging with me and keep writing the great articles!
GL
Luke,
I haven’t been on hotblog for a long time and there is nothing I can do about it so it seems unless someone reading this from the WordPress Parent company AUTOMATIC sympathizes with us.
You might want to pass an email off to them to nicely ask what’s up.
But the most important thing to do is just to keep on networking with the people around you along with other bloggers. That will bring in far more traffic overtime then the hotblog 100.
Good Luck, GL
Amorcito- Straight out of a fairy tale ;D If he can’t see it in my eyes, I’ll just cook and put it on his plate.
rw_man – I need to lose far more than 15, but I’m starting running next week after I get over this cold (on the treadmills of course, no need to run in slippery icy snow!)
Hey I just wrote a really great post on my blog about how I don’t want to date or marry American women anymore and that I only want to date and marry Siberian women. http://siberianow.wordpress.com/2007/01/14/i-am-no-longer-interested-in-checking-out-dating-or-marrying-any-american-women-or-women-at-the-college-i-am-only-interested-in-checking-out-dating-and-marrying-siberian-women/#more-19
Check it out.
–Luke Skywalker
“But the most important thing to do is just to keep on networking with the people around you along with other bloggers.”
Everyone, I would like you all to keep your eyes peeled for a blog on WordPress about the beauty of nature. I already made links on my blog to two blogs about Russian Women, I need to link to blogs about nature and the beauty of nature, because I love that too, and to me that is one of the most wonderful parts about life’s experiences.
–Luke Skywalker
It is true that change is one of the more difficult things to deal with, no matter how prepared you think you are for it – and change implies forms of sacrifice (large or small).
One of the questions you might consider asking yourself is, how culturally aware am I? How will I cope in situations where those around me can make use of knowledge and cultural references which I might not? Will I be able to stand my ground or will I be forced to withdraw and be an onlooker?
And for a Russian woman who might be considering relocation – how does she cope with the reverse?
One of the greatest difficulties I had during my time in Russia was my inability to draw on the dense foundation of cultural knowledge that everyone seemed to have in barrel-loads, which I sometimes struggled to understand. It could be simple things like knowing which crops are available at certain times of year (the food is often seasonal) and therefore what not to ask for at the market – small things which can suddenly be important and if you don’t know it can cause hilarity or confusion.
In company, much of the humour is referential and draws on this knowledge, and in time you do pick it up – but initially it can be difficult to break into conversations and be a part of the society without being dead-weight or ‘brake’ as the Russians sometimes call it
However I can say that I was given more help and patience by everyone than I really deserved because people there genuinely invest time in relationships – and I know the same was NOT true for my wife when she relocated here, who faced the opposite scenario every day – a western cultural void which she constantly tried to ‘fill’ in a way that only she knows show, sometimes to the surprise or confusion of others.
It is impossible for a westerner to marry a Russian woman without forms of compromise on both sides, and you won’t fully understand what that means until it is facing you.
But I say it is more than worth it, and for a committed person life can _only_ be improved by it.
Hi Visitor,
Thanks for the great comment. Some pretty insightful stuff there regarding cultural perceptions and differences.
I appreciate your validation on the central premise of this post which was about the need to make reasonable sacrifices in one’s life in order to make this work out and reap the benefits that come with it.
Please tell your friends and please keep commenting!
Cheers, GL
The pearls of wisdom, common sense and respect never stop for your site GL. A calm harbour in the storm as I see it.
Please keep up the good and vital work. Your site is a true gem for those of us preparing for the trip and experience of our lifetime.
Thank you.
Canajun
Reading one of Luke’s earlier comments, I couldn’t help but LOL at the prospect of a bunch of angry feminists “bringing down football”!
Picture the sight of two teams of footballers standing stunned and amazed in the middle of a stadium as a militant group of bra burners ravage the stands and halt the game!
LMAO
Couldn’t agree more.
If you don’t get nasty enough to incite temporary insanity in a Feminazi who accidentally forgot to hate you while under your spell, then you need more work.
And when you can, then my friend you’ll know what is heaven on earth in the Motherland.
The Gold Standard of femininity doesn’t take wooden nickels.
Enjoyed the read GL.
I’ve had a fairly thorough look around this Blog. And I would have to give this Post the “Top Award for Practical Relevence”.
I could not agree more with the “something for nothing” comments. Men with this attitude are simply the male version of the Cult of Entitlement. And it’s insulting to the girls and embarassing for the men who see it broadcasting like a cheap suit in a Valentino show.
NOW ABOUT THE SEX…
Imagine, just for a moment, that you never or rarely had your “special moment” whenever you did the horizontal (or standing, lol, yes, definitely lol) Mambo. Day after day, after week, after month. Just how long before you’d be dreaming about someone who could really take care of business?
Yes, some girls have little interest in it. But this is uncommon. And yes, some have an extremely huge appetite. Really huge. But most fall somewhere in between.
Will a girl who never gets off leave you? If she doesn’t; then she will wish that she did. And if she can she will.
The vast majority of Western divorces are initiated by women. And their unsatisfying sex life is not an insignificant part of it. Infidelity is their fidelity to the pursuit of successfully relieving sexual tension.
When she truly loves you, you will get lots of warning, if you’re experienced enough to see the signs. Or better still, never see them at all, because she’s a very happy camper. Truly happy. No fakin’.
A truly loving Russian girl is more prone to wanting to work on the intimate part of the relationship. The Western girl is much more likely to search for the “ready made”. A general statement.
My favourite Russian saying … “My wife, my prostitute, my friend.”
The inverse is equally important to them. If your Russian girl is honest, she’ll share some of “the girly talk” about sex banter between her friends. AMAZING how much they tell each other.
I’ve mentioned it before, and I’ll mention it again. If a man truly wants a successful longterm relationship or a marriage with a Russian girl, then rise to the occasion/her exalted level, with constant “change and improvement.” And when you’re better than she could possibly find in a very, very long time, and you have reciprocal love, then turn up the “Change and Improve” mode even higher.
ALL marriages have their important “challenges”. And during any important challenge she will reassess her options. And when you are her best option, then she will stand and spar … meaning want very, very much to work it out.
It’s a competitive world. And the more that we make ourselves our best possible, the more that the adherents to the male Cult of Entitlement will make the Changers and Improvers and real men look that much better.
I personally have changed and improved virtually every conceivable part of my life, my character and my general self, since I met “her” years ago and am very much looking forward to what’s on board for this next year of our relationship.
And I’m getting to really liking it. You could call it the inspiration of love. Most of it has been entirely voluntary or a response to some incredible art of femininity that I saw her undergoing. Unbelieveable what she’s done. Unbelieveable. Ever seen a Russian girl do Eastern dance? Why oh why did she learn it? The answer is a little private. Just for example.
Recently we had a very serious “show down at the O.K. Corral”. It was a serious, very serious phase. Very serious. Are you getting that it was serious? So what saved it?
Curiously she admitted that when “she contemplated her options” she was faced with the bareface truth that I have outclassed my competition and that she has “her best in me” and so to go would only seriously hurt her life. I mention this in particular primary to underline the importance to agresssively seek to “Change and Improve.”
And, of course, I seconded that emotion from my own point of view and for many similar reasons. She really is so fine. She too, for me, has seriously outclassed her competition. And I had some fairly quiet days to remind myself of it.
Just yesterday I added PMS and birth stress conditioning (she’s preparing my mindset for being unphased by some potential nasty treatment during the birthing event.) to my very long list of Change and Improve. Hormones can make them a real deal to deal with. And there is no test like the PMS test.
In hindsight, and relative to all my Western Feminazi’s, I would have to say that there is nothing more inspiring to the man in you than the feminine in her. Perhaps this is why, relative to my former life, that my own list of “Change and Improve” had remained so remarkably neglected for so long.
There is nothing which can more uninspire or inspire a man from his own manliness and being a real man, less than a Feminazi, and more than a truly feminine Russian girl. They can be truly amazing. Russian girl, of course. And only a fool will experience this gift and not be inspired by it.
Exceptional post GL. Kudos.
Interesting that I’d forgotten how much I liked this post without having read my former comments.
Many who come here are so entirely ignorant of what it takes to have their own “little slice of heaven” that they insult the pricelessness of the extraordinary Russian character. And only cheapen their own with their arrogance and whining borne of spoiled, socially retarded males.
But for those who understand the concept of alacritous reciprocity here’s some reporting on the aftermath of a huge, gigantic amount of personal life energy within the context of my relationship with my beloved. It confirms aspects of this post and that it is not myth.
http://russianlove.wordpress.com/tag/russian-love/
And so it goes…