Our Very Own Beautiful Siberian Princess Lena
In a number of my previous posts I’ve stressed the importance of developing your social network in Russia and the FSU in order to find yourself a True Lady.
Although introduction agencies are not my most recommended option I still understand that many men will still go this route in order to get started.
However I believe there is a much better and safer method to roll into this without encountering any of the numerous scams that unfortunately exists in this realm.
There are literally millions of Russian, Ukrainian and Eastern Europeans already living in the West. And many of these folks have immigrated recently or still have close ties back with their motherland.
These people are an incredibly rich source of information and possible contacts that you should not ignore.
Do your best to socialize with these people and if an opportunity presents itself during the conversation don’t be afraid to be honest about your intentions towards finding a traditional wife.
If you tell them that you would really appreciate any assistance they can give you in your goal towards creating a happy family they will more than likely feel very proud that you’ve asked them.
If they like you then they will enjoy playing the matchmaker role since many of them have a single lady friend or relative back home that is looking for a serious man to have relations with.
This is the absolute best way to get started because you are initiating your social network in your own country and expanding out from there.
These immigrants can help you establish the all important “beach-head” in their country that you will need to get yourself launched.
Many cities in the US and the West have Russian clubs or community centers that you should explore.
Make sure you don’t forget any Russian or Ukrainian Orthodox churches in your community since many of the services are still done in their native language and they are going to be a real magnet for immigrants and traditionally minded folks too.
Keep in mind that everything you learn in this blog is going to apply to these people since your sincerity and generosity are going to be quietly tested before you earn enough confidence in these people’s minds to help you..
Or simply put..
Treat these people the way you would want to be treated if they were asking you to do the same thing as well.
Offer to take them to lunch or to meet in a cafe where you can better tell your story and convey what it is you are looking for but more importantly listen to their advice and earn their trust.
Remember that there are six degrees of separation in this world between any 2 random people.
So if your first contacts don’t know of anyone right off the bat then I would bet that they know someone who knows someone..
Get it?
In any case this is the best advice I can give you for starting out along this path.
It is certainly more personal and effective then just trying to introduce yourself point blank to a completely unknown person over the internet without a reference.
Make sure you don’t let any opportunities slip by.
Because even if you are just meeting Russian or FSU folks in public don’t be afraid to ask for their email or number in order to stay in contact with them.
I’m sure they will have some valuable knowledge that will help to put you on your way.
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Thanks for posting. I think this is actually one of your best tips yet (among many).
When I was in college, I joined the university Russian club. Met a lot of great people, and it gave me the motivation to really start learning Russian despite being terrible with languages.
Hi JM,
Your welcome. As far as languages are concerned don’t worry you are in good company. Russian is not the easiest language in the world to learn. And the Russians themselves generally regard English as being pretty easy.
Maybe it’s time to revisit your old University Russian Club? Good luck with any ventures you make take in this realm.
GL
Good advice as usual, GL. Now that I live in Washington, D.C. I should have no trouble meeting Russians. The problem is making the time to learn the language!
Hero,
Don’t worry about learning Russian over the basic public gratitudes that you will need on a trip over. I know how to say hello, thank you, your welcome, excuse me, and a few other basic transactions and here I am in Siberia doing just fine. Even away from Moscow you can walk up to a younger girl and they will know basic english. I have had to do this a few times now when I’m not with my interpreter and have not had to ask too many girls before I get a response.
As a matter of fact butchering Russian is a great source of entertainment when out and is a good way to fill dead time if you are stuck without anything to say. Learning how to sound out the alphabet also helped me, not with saying anything but I can sound more things out wrong and keep everyone entertained.
Thanks Sunny. I’m going to have to speak more often with my Russian co-worker. Not that he has time to tutor me in Russian, but he can teach me some basics, I guess.
American women can not quit being jealous… They bring nothing to the table but sex appeal… When that’s gone, they have nothing left to offer… So they will only continue to become more jealous, competitive, and shallow.
–FWO
FWO,
So true, so very true. I find the sex appeal drops off dramatically for me as soon as the competitiveness increases. Ya’ see ‘em walking down the street in a summer dress, head held high and confidence in their step and it all looks so darn good. But then you have coffee or a drink with them and the “me, me, me” starts spilling out. A sense of entitlement is their platform and their message is “stay out of my way”. Generally speaking, I love a woman who knows where she wants to be in life and carries herself with determination and dignity, but when NA women open their mouths and nothing pours out except what they deserve and how they don’t need anybody to get it, I just want to puke. How can they help but be jealous when they add nothing useful to the mix. Jealousy is a predictable response to not getting something they want while seeing others enjoying it. Despite the fact that the others are merely enjoying the fruits of their own effort rather than demanding it be handed to them free of charge.
The full extent of the plight of NA women will be realized in the coming years when they wake up to find themselves old and alone, unwanted and unloved. Which is pretty much as it should be in my opinion.
Yep, they will find out the hard way how most men are treated in the west. By that time, the men NA ignored or worse will either be dead, or will want nothing to do with them.
Taras
I hope that anyone interested in finding these women have at least attempted to start this. I now know of so many Russian gatherings, international couples with the girl from any of the FSU, eastern EU countries, and just about anywhere else in the world where beuatiful women live.
but it was not hard to find out that there are many of these girls here if you keep your eyes and ears open.
I can identify a Russian accent now well and have actually started dialouge with girls and couples after just overhearing this accent. It is almost surefire that they are having trouble finding good guys here for their friends/relatives that want to come over as well.
Maybe it is the weather here
SunnyInSanDiego,
I’ve also been more tuned in to those wonderful accents lately and it is an easy conversation starter just asking what country they are from.
So far I haven’t had any of the fine information shared about all of the girls looking for good spouses “back home” but some have told me about their reasons for coming to North America and it is refreshing to hear people say why they WANT to be here.
I’m always turning quickly at the sound of an FSU accent, secretly hoping that I will find myself gazing into the eyes of my future.
It’s funny.
I try not to be partial or subjective, but take a look at this:
This may sound like an exaggeration, but I have met over a thousand women here in California. Indians, Asians, Latinas, Americans, Europeans, Russians etc. In bars, malls, coffee shops, everywhere, you name it. Guess which group actually made an equal effort to make something happen? The Russian/European women (and some Asian women). They are sincere and so damn down to earth.
I hate to throw labels or judge, but my experience has taught me the Americanized women who are programmed to be manipulative that makes things more difficult and more of a game then loveship. Guys are affected too, it’s not just girls here. Most people play the “game.”
I could careless about American “success” or “failure” I just want to look beyond that and find a woman who gets it and share a moment; life. Nothing more, nothing less. No BMW, jacuzzi, HDTV should matter.
Anyways, I just wanted to say your blog is kinda refreshing. I hope one day to travel over there and see the lifestyle.
I have been using some of the dating sites to meet women and have found them to be inadequate, expensive and restrictive.
Some of them you can actually just exchange emails and start conversing. 100% of those were scams. The others you pay $60 to $100 a month and you get to write to many beautiful and young women. The converstations never get too serious and never too deep. When it does, they stop writing for awhile and then months later, write to you as if they have amnesia. (Dream Marriage). Of course the live chat is ridiculously expensive and with the amount of women available, there HAS to be some sort of kick back and for them to be there all night, something is amiss.
I’m not stupid and I’m not young. The Russian/Ukrainian women already in the USA are looking for men closer to their age, and I think it is because they really want a romance to happen and are being realistic, because they know a guy will make it happen. When I tell a Ukrainian girl I will come to her hometown after writing to her for 6 months, she is hesitant to give me landmarks and places to eat and so on. I believe that they are wanting a relationship, but many of them are benefitting somehow from the sites they are appearing on. It ruins my image of them as far as inner beauty is concerned.
I live in Mexico in a millin dollar house on the beach. The Ukrainian/Russian women I wrote did not show interest in a visit, yet Russians come here often for a vacation.
I believe that the Russian and Ukrainian women are sincere, but are under the same desires as all women. They want a good looking younger man to risk it all to come to them and change their life.
I can understand that. but that’s not what you see on the dating sites. I don’t blame the women, I blame the people who run the sites. Their prime concern is making money, not getting people together. Nobody does that for free.
I think the best idea is to learn Russian, hire a guide and go there yourself, Lugansk, Odessa and Nikolaev. You might be disappointed that you are still invisible to young ladies, but you might meet some others that will like you.
If it’s too good to be true..it probably is.
Wisdom comes from many sources and you Kevin are one of them. Organic associations and relationship building are and always will be the best way to meet the people you want.
I agree with you Kevin, I’ve been there. Whenever it gets serious they disappear.
Thanks for the 411. I’ll try to find a Russian community nearest to where I live here in the high desert of California. AW are horrible.
I would suggest Russian groceries store as a place to meet RW. Most big cities have them. Most Russian ladies are great cooks and it means cooking from scratch and includes some items specific to our cuisine which can not be found in regular groceries stores. What can be better then ask a lovely Russian girl what is said on a package of whatever and how to cook it while discovering different cuisine
I wish there were some Russian ladies near to the area where I live, over here in UK, we have mainly Polish people in this part of the country, we also have a few Croats, Iranians & a few from the Czech Republic.
Where I lived previously I knew a few Ukranians, they were married (& divorced in one case) to British women & were heavy drinkers which unfortunately doesn’t appeal to me. I have heard that Russian & Ukrainian men do like a drop or so of alcohol. I briefly met up with a couple of Ukrainian ladies at a music festival but didn’t have the balls to ask for a contact address or number, but then, they were only in their early 20′s, I wouldn’t have thought that they would have wanted to have anything to do with an ageing old hippy like me, plus I would have rather had contact with someone nearer my age group as I’d be more likely to have something in common with someone of around about my own age.
Would be nice to meet properly face to face with a nice FSU lady, wrong continent, wrong area of the country, still, with my previous track record it may not be such a bad thing.
Hi Andy,
I know that there are plenty of people from Latvia in the UK who are often Russian or Ukranian by origin.
I am attempting to learn the Russian language as I would like to visit these countries, I look at dating sites, I don’t use them as they are very expensive, I have used them which is why I know that they are expensive, now I just look to see the best places to visit. I am going to visit Odessa & Crimea, I would also like to move further up the Ukraine, I’d also like to visit St. Petersburg in Russia, as I’m not a well off person, it may seem a long way off, but I am looking to take a 3 week trip in 2013 out of season, hopefully I will find a way of getting in touch with & meeting up with a native lady.