I’ve had several guys bring up information that the divorce rates in Russia are stated as being higher then in the US. With this info in hand they are banging on my door and saying..
Hey Man.. What the Hell is this? How can Russia be the land of milk and honey when you and your honey can turn sour?
Now did you honestly think that I wouldn’t have a good answer for you? Common guys have some faith. ; )
But before I give you the answer I’m going to quiz you in my Monty Python-esque way to test your wisdom in order to see if you are worthy to cross the bridge over the Chasm of Doom.. So in my best screechy high pitched laughing evil hermit voice.. hee hee hee hee.. I say to you..
What is your name?
What is your favorite color?
Given a 50% and greater national divorce rate in the US.. What is the percentage of women who INITIATED the divorce?
tick tick tick tick tick tick tick tick….
Give up? Did you get tossed into the Chasm of Doom for not knowing the answer?
Well guys here it is..
In the US it’s nearly 70%..
Yes you heard me right.. A dominant and majority percentage of US and Western women are the ones to first pick up the phone to call Mr. Divorce Attorney who just so happens to specialize into turning you into Mr. Big Alimony or Mr. Bankrupt or Mr. God knows what..
Now how does this relate to Russia with a higher divorce rate?
Simple.
Roughly take the same percentage of divorce initiators and flip it from the women to the men.
Guys. It’s a sad but true statement.. A huge percentage of Russian women are treated like complete commodities here. Something to be used, discarded and upgraded once the shine wears out in their spouse’s eyes. One of the huge reasons as to why this country’s demographics has such major problems is the complete lack of responsibility, morality and accountability that many of our local XY chromosome carriers have.
You have no idea how many DROP DEAD GORGEOUS Divorced Russian Women I have met with a kid who have very little chances of finding a new husband because of their status as mothers. On top of that the concept of child support or alimony in Russia is treated as an on-going joke and I honestly have no idea how these women are able to make it on their own. Thank God most of them have understanding mothers that they are close to that can often help them deal with this.
On the other side of the equation are the Men. Many middle age to older guys I know of here who have a minimal amount of income to go out and play with have been married 2 to 3 times or more. No I’m not kidding. Let me tell you about 2 guys I know as an example. One is only 24 years old but he’s already been married twice and has a kid from the first marriage.. Another guy I know is about 60 and has his own small business. This joker has been married 7 times!! I have no idea how many “lost” kids he has.
Knowing what the odds are against them and what the local climate is like for single mothers Russian Women are not the ones happily calling up the divorce attorneys looking for a better deal in life.. They know there is none in doing this. The only cases I know of where Russian women have initiated divorces is when the husband has gotten physically violent with them. Other then that these women as you can guess put up with a TON of sh*t from their husbands. They often have no choice because the SYSTEM does not reward divorced women here like it does in many other places. But guys on the other hand have very few consequences from spreading their seed like the wind.
Now I sure as hell don’t want to encourage the idea that any dysfunctional guys out there in the woodwork who are looking for a Russian wife can do the same thing and that it will be OK cause these girls are used to it. No it’s NOT Ok.. But unfortunately we get our share of guys like this from the US and elsewhere who are subconsciously looking for this because they are so emotionally screwed up. (see my earlier post)
Men, it’s pure economics in numbers. I truly believe that Western Men and Russian Women are so well matched for each other not just because both groups have been pissed on for a long time. More importantly because of our shared and often very lonely backgrounds we have a much higher level of GRATITUDE towards each other. We are just simply grateful as all hell to have someone who is grateful that they have us too.
Wow what a concept..
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Dude, you are so right! The system in the USA is biased to screw the man, and the system in the FSU is biased to screw the woman.
So the two groups are tailor-made for each other! Both groups are ready to have a good loving relationship with someone who will cherish them, both groups are tired of the crap, both groups are ready to commit to someone who they can build a life with and not have the rug yanked out from under them.
Keep preachin!
Halleluya Brother Tim! Halleluya!
Thank you Brother for your testimony! You were once BLIND like so many millions of your other Brothers!
BUT NOW.. YOU HAVE SEEN THE LIGHT!!!
Congregation screaming: “Amen!” “Amen!”
YOU Brother Tim were kept in Bondage by the evil high priestess of the dark temple of Feminism!
BUT NOW.. YOU ARE FREE!!!
Congregation screaming: “Amen!” “Amen!”
The LORD wants you to serve him Brother Tim! He call upon you like he did to Moses to help FREE your other Brothers who are STILL in Bondage and Despair! Who suffer from the dark scourge of ignorance and who’s hearts CRY OUT for redemtion!
The LORD wants you to spread his word of HOPE to all your brothers so that they MAY RECEIVE the blessings of true and rightous MANHOOD! So that they may start their quest and their journey to LOVE!!
Congregation screaming: “Amen!” “Amen!”
So Brother Tim.. DO YOU BELIEVE???
SAY IT LOUD BROTHER!! DO YOU BELIEVE??
G,day mate and thank you very much on you
information and honest outlook .
i have read so much B.S ,im realy glad to
find a site with good insight.i would love to hear more and cant wait to visit russia.
thanks again
nige
G’day Mr. Nigel..
Are you an Ozzie or a Kiwi by the way? Would love to spend more time in your part of the world someday. Love sailing and diving.
Thanks for your great feedback! Hope you make it out to Russia soon before it starts getting cold again in October.
If you like what info here do me a favor and PLEASE spread the word to your other Mates. The more guys who visit the bigger the “Paa-Dee” as you blokes like to say.
Oh and by the way try not to get into any drinking challenges with the locals here. I thought Ozzies really knew how to put it down.. but that all changed when I got here!
Cheers!
GL
G,day GL
yes i am an aussie and yes when i tell peolpe
im going to visit russia they look at me strange
as most people here like it here and are not interested in going there.i have a mate who i am trying to talk into comeing with me,i dont think he will.welli live in the hunter valley in N.S.W austraila.we have vineyard,coal mines ,we are aprox 300klma from sydney .If you ever come here call in will be glad to meet you.I dont think i will make it to russia before the cold but am just going to see what it is like and if i do like will come back,$$$ permitting.im sure this would take some time to keep this site going and you are doing a very good job.Its a credit to you.
regards nigel
Well Nigel you’ll be glad to know that most Russian Girls in general think that Australia is a magical exotic land.. which it is
.. and would love to visit there.
This will blow your mind but a BIG reason why Russian girls dream about Australia is because the vast majority of them have NEVER seen the OCEAN! Some of them have traveled to that little lake they call the Black Sea and they think that this little pond is an Ocean if you can believe it! So when any of you guys find yourself a beautiful Russian Girl the first thing you should do to completely blow her mind is show her a REAL OCEAN. That would probably be better then DisneyLand for her.
One of my first GF’s was from NSW and she was a doll.. So at that time many years ago I thought that Australia was the land of awesome women.. that was until a very close Aussie friend of mine grounded me on the reality of the situation you Aussie men face there.
He had just gotten out of a brutal divorce where unfortunately just like in the US.. the Australian divorce laws had completely screwed him. He told me that the materialism and the feminist culture of “entitlement” was just as bad there as in the US.. and he told me to stay the hell out of there if I was looking for a wife. (But someday I do want to live there when I’m ready to make my next leap with my woman by my side
)
He practiced what he preached and 2 years ago married himself a lovely young Filipina gal on Guam. He’s happy and I’m happy for him too..
So if you guys from down under or any other part of the world have serious issues with your women like we do in the US.. feed us whatever wisdom you can!
On a very upBeat note I just met an intrepid Aussie who came into town to meet a girl here last month. Didn’t get his contact info unfortunately.. but he ended up finding a different girl that he liked way more then the original one he wrote to and came to see!
This happens the MAJORITY of the time and I’d even put another 80/20 rule on this and say that it happens 80% of the time with only 20% of the guys deciding to hang with the girl they were first interested in.
That’s really the whole point to Russia and Russian Girls. Most guys who come here come here with one girl in mind but when they arrive they realize there is a whole bloody country here filled with beautiful women and relationship potential! So AGAIN the whole focus is on developing your PERSONAL SOCIAL NETWORK.. More then anything else out there.. this will serve you well.
So the bottom line for you is to just get hell over here to see for yourself!
Cheers Mate!
GL
G,day GL
well as to the aussie woman ,yes there is some very nice one here and yes most of them can have very serious issues and with australia giveing $$$$$4000.00 per child born. Every man is running like hell as there will be a maintance issue for the child as the woman in most cases are only after fast cash and easy lifestyle.the seperation rate is getting like the U S.What i must tell you first is that im looking to do volunteer work in russiaI bet the brits are kicking them selfs now.well for me i cant see myself picking up any girl unless we were to become good friends first and she would have to want children as i do and be a good mother to them.Most importantly she would have to love the beach as i do.What would the best way to learn russain as in my country area we are very limited to what courses we have.
OH one more thing how could anyone out party an aussie this i have to see.i have never been out paa dee ed I TAKE THIS CHALLANGE..I AM THE PARTY DEVIL.
hope to here from you soon
your mate nigel
Nigel,
All Russian girls absolutely adore the beach because it is such a rarity in their lives.
They have only less then 2 months out of the year to wear a Bikini and then the “Beach” is usually a lake or river stretch of sand with lots of bugs. So they will absolutely flip if they got exposed to a real beach like in Australia. I missing Bondi Beach just thinking about it..
The idea of you coming here to do volunteer work is all fine and good but make sure you have a stable income obviously. Volunteer work is almost un-heard of so be prepared to be treated like an Alien from Mars. And Russian people actually think it’s silly which is a VERY unfortunate part of their culture. This is due to old Communist beliefs which created a very dog eat dog mentality as people would fight for the last scraps that were available during that time.
But overall, taking the time like I have to learn the ropes is the best way possible to find your girl. In terms of language training.. check out the program called Rosetta Stone Software or something like that. From what I hear they are the absolute best in learning Russian.
Dude.. I know you aussie guys paa dee way hard but NOT as hard as these guys do.. Sorry man.. but don’t worry I’m sure you’ll see for yourself. Now keep in mind that’s NOT necesarily a good thing and to be quite honest much of that mentality is killing off the population here especially the men. BUT this is one of those things that guys like you and me have to find out for ourselves..
One word of advice when they start pouring the vodka shots in front of you.. Make sure you alwasys eat the little lemmon slices they put in front of you. It will slow down the effect and keep you on your feet.
Cheers!
GL
G,Day GL
If all girls adore Australia and its beaches ,why do they not travel here.well i think it may be very hot in comparison to there own country and they would burn very easy.sine you have a insight where would the be place for me to start my travels in russia.take in mind im not a much of a tourest and i would like to see russia for how it realy is.Unfortunatly russia dosent allow australians to stay long so my stay will be limited.It will make it hard to travel with Visa requirements(wanting to know where you are staying)I like to do things as i go .Play it by ear.thank for the software inf im going to the first one and see how i go.would you suggest i buy my things before i leave or get them when i arrive.>cloths and so on.well i dont drink vodka so that fixes that one,some how i cant see a bottle of vodka sitting next to the barbque.so can you suggest anything good to do over there,I will do anything once.what is the best means of travel ?
regards nigel
You should be able to guess that it’s not the easiest thing in the world for a Russian girl to travel to Australia if it’s difficult for them to get a visa and if the average salary in this country is $300 USD per month. You need to go there no matter where you are from basically… and it’s much better that way because you need to experience her culture and her home in order to understand her life.
If you go to any city you will be able to buy the basics of what you need. Also as far as the Russian visa situation is concerned you will need to do your homework on that. It will probably take two trips for you to get settled if that’s what you want. 1 to explore and to get you contacts in line.. so that you can work and live. 2 to come back for the long term provided that you have a business or working visa. We have christian misionaries that come in and out all the time and it seems like they stay for much longer then the max 30 days allowed on a Tourist visa.
If I were you I would head up to Seoul and catch a flight into Vladivostok or Habarovsk to scope things out over there. In the meantime.. yes.. Russian men drink vodka with almost anything.. so yes there is a bottle frequently ready at hand..
Cheers!
GL
Interesting article rw_man. Let’s not forget that we could also be accused of treating Russian women as a commodity – just look at all the “Russian Bride” websites….
Hi Jayeye!
I totally agree with you on that one.. listing out the women the way they do is not the problem because that’s how it’s done on any matchmaking site like match.com.
The problem is in the Marketing.
I personally would like to SHOOT the ass who decided to first use the term “mail order bride” on their agency site because this has done so much to distort the beauty and reality of these women. I can’t imagine how many couples or loving unions it’s prevented from forming because of the damage it’s done.
To me this is no different from the worst racial slurs that one could use against another person. And those who use it in my mind are only painfully demonstrating their own ignorance and their own gutter level class.
Keep commenting!
GL
Good post, rw_man. I knew about the divorce initiation percentage in the US but did not know it was practically the inverse in Russia.
Hey I want to ask a few questions, and they may be indelicate. But I am hoping to find answers.
1) Russian gals.
Look men are people who need a satisfying love life. We in the west are used to having it rationed … is it different in Russia?
I mean we American men have desires, but be very clear on this, we want to PROVIDE. to LOVE, to HELP, to be a part of a FAMILY…. but yes, we want a partner who is intimate and does not withhold or play games in that department.
What can we expect? From courtship, to engagement, to marriage … in your informed opinion, what should be our expectation … and OF COURSE what is the man’s responsibility to give?
2. Families.
If an American man marries a Russian gal, he joins her family. You have clearly expressed that he must win over the mother. Lol, yep, can see that in many cultures. First I want to say, before I ask, that if my wife’s family needs something, that they are MY family. I WANT to provide. What is the tip-off to show it’s about materialism for her family or her, and not support to a husband’s new family?
How can a husband show support? He might want to, but not to become a dupe. I guess I am asking for “GL’s” guide to “not being a sucker” … but “to be a loving supportive part of ANY family” (Russian or not)
Any thoughts on this?
Steven
Steven
I’m sure you’ve seen the movie Pulp Fiction.
Do you remember when Samuel Jackson who plays “Jules” is in a near panic about a dead body in his buddy’s garage while he is talking on the phone to his Gangster Boss?
Remember how cool the Boss was.. just chilling by the pool side when he told Samuel Jackson,
“You ain’t got no problems, Jules. I’m on the motherf**ker. Go back in there, chill them n*ggers out and wait for The Wolf, who should be comin’ directly.”
Jules: “You sendin’ The Wolf?”
Marsellus: “Feel better?”
Jules: “Sh*t Negro, that’s all you had to say!”
Well Steven.. substitute Mr. Wolf for average Russian Girl and you should get the picture.
It’s unfortunate that most American and Western Men have to concern themselves with issues related to a girls ability to be intimate or not. This “problem” is not a problem for any Russian Guy who is married.
Sex is NOT regarded as an “assault” on a Russian woman’s body.. it’s regarded as a demonstration of love and attraction. This is much more simplier then you are making this to be big guy. It ain’t that complicated and everyone stays happy.
But I will write more about this in the future.
Cheers!
There is a lot of logic to the idea that American men who have been crapped on would make a perfect match for a Russian woman who has been crapped on. Almost sounds too good to be true. So I have to ask, what keeps a these Russian ladies from turning in to an American entitlement queen once she is in the U.S. and has all of its marriage protections. There is a part of me that is thinking that marriage to any woman is suicide unless we leave the country.
Second, how do these single moms, sometimes abused deal with their past. My ex had kids and got the short end of the sick from her former husband. She was in a near poverty situation. I as stupid enough to believe that she would appreciate being rescued from her situation but she turned psycho bitch on me. She was damaged goods and had a lot of man hatred in her. What is keeping these Russian women from the man hatred thing?
Viking, there is nothing you can do about any one woman turning into a man hater. I’ve been in a bad marriage that ended when I walked out on her. It turned out my ex hates men with a passion too. It was impossible to salvage the situation, so I did the only thing I could do, namely end it. But I did learn one thing, and that is pay close attention to what she says. Trust your gut instinct. If she says or does anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, confused or funny about being around her, it’s a tsunami warning that you’d better pay attention to. Something’s wrong, and you aren’t the one to fix it. People can be shown how to fix problems in their lives, but only the one with the problems can do it. I’m sorry about what happened to you, I hope you learned some valuable but hard lessons and moved on. Good luck to you Viking……
Taras
Hi Viking,
The first thing I would recommend is for you to simply come out and see for yourself what the women are like. Once you do this I’d think that you would begin to really understand that very different ways of life and general attitudes really do exist.
The second thing I want you to understand (and I’m sure I’ll get more into this later) is the concept of Identity.
Most of the girls here have a real identity Viking. It’s not something that can be easily replaced unless this is something you actually encourage which of course I don’t recommend.
Taras has a great point to make in terms of listening carefully to what a woman says. Cause he’s really saying discover who she truly is first and don’t find yourself attracted to basket cases that need to be fixed because your just asking for a Co-Dependency and a dead end.
On a deeper level listen to yourself and what you are saying as well. Some of us think that we are looking for happy stable women but on an emotional level the only women we may be attracted to are just the opposite. On some level it always takes two to tango and many of the experiences we’ve had in our life either good or bad is something that we ourselves have invited.
A man who is in this state will find the same problems in Russia that he has in the States. This is something I think you understand well since you have described a Rescue scenario with your ex-wife.
We’ve all been there viking.. If we want something different then what we’ve had in our past then we will all need to be different as well.
Please keep posting and spread the word.
Cheers!
NIGEL LANGSORD Writes (yes i am an aussie and yes when i tell peolpe
im going to visit russia they look at me strange)
Nigel, that is because you are strange. I should Know…I am your brother
Cheers
Darren Langsford
hello ,everyone..hello darren!
nice to see you care:)
regards nigel
I have noticed there are some good/bad ideas about Russian women floating around, although its perhaps understandable given most people haven’t been to Russia.
I have visited the country, I have Russian friends and I married a beautiful Russian girl (with no plans to change that). I thought I would add my point of view, in case it helps. I used to be a brainwashed student of the feminist-oriented way of life until I met my wife, who made me normal again. Remember that while reading my comments.
- Generally, Russian women are WAY ahead of western women in terms of intelligence, appearance and physical beauty, friendship, physical health (!) especially with respect to nutrition/drugs/alcohol, skills, mental health/stability, fidelity & reliability, and like-it-or-not directness.
- Russian women appear to be more resilient to the kind of stuff which makes westerners become flaky (work pressure, depression, social problems). It’s hard to qualify this, except to say that Russians are strong willed people and mentally very stable in difficult circumstances. This is a very good feature to have in a marriage.
- Russian women really look after themselves. They take a lot of pride in their appearance, and they always want to look good, particularly in company. And believe me they know how to look good! It is important for them and they will expect the same of their men! If you are a slob, you will suffer (and rightly so because you probably stand to loose a complete angel if you dont sort yourself out!).
- Some Russians are part of the Russian Orthodox Church or a related church, others are not religious at all. This issue may be important for you so don’t let it be a surprise.
- Russian women are often skilled in things you wouldn’t expect. They may know scores of beautiful songs or poems, can knit/sew/make items for the home, can very often cook (and well), and are incredibly well read, they can be skilled card and game players. The list goes on. A western man must take part in some of this because she will not want to watch TV as a replacement for a fun night out or a passionate night in, not least because TV is not her native language, and she doesn’t understand the cultural basis for the TV programs. It is just not interesting for her so don’t drive her mental with it!
- Don’t be fooled by stereotypical ideas about Eastern Europe. Russia is _not_ a poor country. Especially near the main cities, and especially now. You better get that straight early. I recently read an opinion that typical Russians don’t have TVs or PCs. That is pure ignorance. Despite ongoing problems, life in Russia has many advantages over western life, as I have learned. I won’t go into details but suffice to say if you spend time there you will begin to understand.
- Russia is only cold in winter! During summer it is hot. It reaches 35′c, maybe more and it can last. On exposure to a bit of sun, my wife tans (almost inexplicably) fast and rarely burns. If you think a Russian woman can’t survive a hot beach, you are in for a surprise
- The biggest single problem a Russian woman faces in the U.K. (where I live) is the weather. We get a depressing amount of rain now and rarely a clear sky. Russians need sun and snow and to be outdoors to keep a positive state of mind. Deprived of this for years, they can become unhappy and this can only be remedied by frequent trips/holidays (or emigrating!). This no doubt depends on the person, but don’t underestimate the power of weather!
- The second biggest problem Russian women face in the U.K. (and maybe the U.S. or Australia) is making new friends. It is difficult. It is typically easier for them to make friends with other men (obviously!) and other non-nationals (women and men) who are in a similar situation. I’m not sure of the exact reason for this, but I think it has a lot to do with western women and cultural differences (I know for a fact that some women do not like my wife because she always looks stunning, despite her friendliness and sociability, and it probably makes them defensive. they are not being conciously hostile, but in the end it adds up to the same thing).
- Russian women don’t _always_ espect that they need to find a job and go to work, although they will if necessary. She expects her man to earn money by default, but will normally be prepared to join in if it makes sense.
- Russian women do appear to love being on the beach or near the water, and most Russians are also good swimmers. She will happly schedule holidays involving beautiful beaches. Start saving those $$$ guys! But you will enjoy it, it will expand your horizons.
- Family is very important to Russian women, both existing family and children. There may be pressure for children quite early in a marriage, if not from her then from her family. If you are going to marry a Russian woman, expect that she will expect children.
- Russian women expect to be treated well. I do mean _well_. This means quality gifts (especially birthday which is critical!) and trips where possible. They like generosity and are suspicious of money-control. But NOT IN THE SAME WAY YOU MAY BE USED TO. They do not want to control money themselves. They expect a man to provide and be both generous and responsible.
- Russians don’t care about Christmas. Even the religious ones. It is not on the Russian calendar. Don’t be surprised if your Russian wife is apathetic towards the idea of buying lots of christmas gifts for everyone you know. She won’t understand it, especially if you spend less on her birthday (which I can assure you, _is_ important for her). Don’t screw this up.
- Russians do care about New Year, and expect to celebrate/have parties. Sitting at home on New Year is not their favourite thing in the world.
- A Russian woman expects her man to defend her against any problems, even if she is capable of dealing with that problem herself (and be in no doubt, she probably is). If her man appears to be not dependable, this will not go down well. And she _may_ test him from time to time.
- Russian women do not view equality in the literal sense that westerners do. She will expect you to open doors and carry heavy (or maybe not so heavy) bags for her. She expects to be treated like a lady, not an ‘equal’ and certainly not a ‘guy’. They will expect you to pay bills at restaurants and bars, because they are used to it – they see this as an appropriate and important male gesture, not because they want to save money themselves. Understand this well.
- Russians are often multilingual. One of the girls I know speaks 5 languages fluently and can switch in an instant. My wife speaks 3 languages plus fragments of a few others. A Russian woman may expect her man to invest some time in the Russian language, and to visit Russia with her.
- Russian women are very discrete. They will not cause significant ‘scenes’ in public no matter how upset they are (although that may change at home – oh yes!
. They have respect for the dignity of the family. They enjoy chatting, but do not gossip. They are diplomats, and will surprise you with the ability not to ‘spill beans’ between one group of friends and another, even against the odds.
- Russian women are not drunks. They will drink alcohol in company, but know when to stop. They do not understand binge-drinking (which is a common passtime in the U.K. unfortunately). They are used to the idea that heavy drinking is only accompanied by celebration and lots of food (weddings, new year, birthday). Having said that, on these occasions they can hold their vodka.
- Russian women (I have noticed) sometimes put on a bit of an act, which is that they are bubbly, flirty & sexy and defer to men in their presence. Don’t be fooled. They can be flirty but they are usually hiding their true intelligence and very careful about who they choose to be with. Enjoy it, but don’t be disappointed if you interpret it wrongly.
- Don’t be afraid. Enjoy being a man. You will like it a lot more than being a western mouse. I don’t want to complain about western women too much because I know some very nice ones, but having adapted to the Russian attitude, I find western relationships bizarre/freaky and seemingly unrewarding for women and their men. Enough said.
Anyway thats my input to the subject. Being married to a Russian girl is as challenging as it is rewarding. Never dull. I don’t think it would be worth it any other way. There will be a learning curve, but providing you can stay on it (and she _will _have patience) it should go well.
Hope some of this is of help to somebody.
Hello Visitor,
Excellent Comment and Insight!
Would love to hear more about what you have learned from your rewarding time and experiences with your wife.
I especially like the points you made about a Russian Woman’s mental fortitude and strength in terms of dealing with issues that would normally drive a Western woman to ask for a prescription of anti-depressants.
Russian women are survivors in the truest sense of the word. And most of that simply comes from their stoic and strong attitudes towards life and themselves.
Anyways thanks again for joining us and please take the time to contribute some more!
Cheers! GL
to Visitor
Thank you for this insight. It compares with many things I have observed with my lady from eastern Europe for the past several years here in the States. She is young, beautiful, knows several languages, yes..loves the beach and tanning. Yes she can be very direct (non-tactfully), somewhat stubborn, dramatic, somewhat self-centered, but genuinely appreciative. Unfortunatly she married another. So I may be interested in visiting Russia and meeting a new woman.
Question… do you and your wife make frequent trips to her home? Does she keep her connections to her homeland? What age bracket are you in.
Thank you again.
Hello Ceiver,
I hope you are successful in your search.
To answer your questions:
I am now 35, and my wife is a little younger than me.
By comparison, we have friends just down the road who have a much bigger age difference (he is about 55-60, and she is about 35). Most of the other couples I know involving a Russian woman have a small age difference. One interesting fact is that my wife identified this girl as Russian from her presentation/appearance, and went up to chat with her. She was right, and they have been friends with us since. Bizarre but true.
I have visited Russia twice with her and spent time with her circle of friends. I would go more often but it is not worth her going for less than 2 weeks at a time and this is difficult for me because of work.
She visits home up to once every year, usually but not always around new year. She maintains links there with friends and many family members. Especially her mum and grandparents. She has two or three close friends there also (one of whom is a gorgeous young divorcee with a child, and apparently a small chance of finding a decent guy there
.
Other girls I know in the same situation don’t go home so often. One doesn’t go home much at all (although Vladivostok is quite a serious journey compared with Moscow, which is a _relatively_ short trip from here).
These conversations have been really useful for me. I’m doing a presentation on Divorce Rates etc. in Russia for school, and its really interesting to hear everyones opinions about divorce and marriage and why american men and russian women appreciate having someone who values them. Thanks to the host for your stats.