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I personally have much to be thankful for on this Thanksgiving Day.
First and foremost I am deeply thankful for all of you incredible visitors and participants out there who help to make Russian Women the Real Truth what it is.
Hopefully this site is a modest but meaningful beacon for those of you who wish to pursue your own dreams for finding love, happiness and a little truth in this often upside down world of ours.
I not only wish all of you Good Fortune but I would also like to add one very important caveat to this wish.
You can literally make your own Luck.
My life here and the beautiful love I receive is a testament to this.
I know I live in a different world then what many of you are accustomed to.
But this is only the case because like so many others..
I just decided to start walking towards it.
Not only can you do the same.. But if there is a similar desire in your soul then you MUST do the same for yourself.
I believe that this is a test that the Man upstairs gives all of us at some critical point in our lives.
I know firsthand that this journey WILL be a successful one if you do it with an open heart and mind.
This is not just warm and fuzzy fluff designed to make you feel good either.
Its the real deal..
So on that note I’d like to share with you an important article that I hope all of you will take to heart.
Where I come from and the life I have now is living proof of its validity..
How to Get Lucky
Scientific proof that you make your own breaks
by Richard Wieseman
For centuries, people have recognized the power of luck and have done whatever they could to try seizing it. Take knocking on wood, thought to date back to pagan rituals aimed at eliciting help from powerful tree gods. We still do it today, though few, if any, of us worship tree gods. So why do we pass this and other superstitions down from generation to generation? The answer lies in the power of luck.
Live a Charmed Life
To investigate scientifically why some people are consistently lucky and others aren’t, I advertised in national periodicals for volunteers of both varieties. Four hundred men and women from all walks of life — ages 18 to 84 — responded.
Over a ten-year period, I interviewed these volunteers, asked them to complete diaries, personality questionnaires and IQ tests, and invited them to my laboratory for experiments. Lucky people, I found, get that way via some basic principles — seizing chance opportunities; creating self-fulfilling prophecies through positive expectations; and adopting a resilient attitude that turns bad luck around.
Open Your Mind
Consider chance opportunities: Lucky people regularly have them; unlucky people don’t. To determine why, I gave lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to tell me how many photos were inside. On average, unlucky people spent about two minutes on this exercise; lucky people spent seconds. Why? Because on the paper’s second page — in big type — was the message “Stop counting: There are 43 photographs in this newspaper.” Lucky people tended to spot the message. Unlucky ones didn’t. I put a second one halfway through the paper: “Stop counting, tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $250.” Again, the unlucky people missed it.
The lesson: Unlucky people miss chance opportunities because they’re too busy looking for something else. Lucky people see what is there rather than just what they’re looking for.
This is only part of the story. Many of my lucky participants tried hard to add variety to their lives. Before making important decisions, one altered his route to work. Another described a way of meeting people. He noticed that at parties he usually talked to the same type of person. To change this, he thought of a color and then spoke only to guests wearing that color — women in red, say, or men in black.
Does this technique work? Well, imagine living in the center of an apple orchard. Each day you must collect a basket of apples. At first, it won’t matter where you look. The entire orchard will have apples. Gradually, it becomes harder to find apples in places you’ve visited before. If you go to new parts of the orchard each time, the odds of finding apples will increase dramatically. It is exactly the same with luck.
Relish the Upside
Another important principle revolved around the way in which lucky and unlucky people deal with misfortune. Imagine representing your country in the Olympics. You compete, do well, and win a bronze medal. Now imagine a second Olympics. This time you do even better and win a silver medal. How happy do you think you’d feel? Most of us think we’d be happier after winning the silver medal.
But research suggests athletes who win bronze medals are actually happier. This is because silver medalists think that if they’d performed slightly better, they might have won a gold medal. In contrast, bronze medalists focus on how if they’d performed slightly worse, they wouldn’t have won anything. Psychologists call this ability to imagine what might have happened, rather than what actually happened, “counter-factual” thinking.
To find out if lucky people use counter-factual thinking to ease the impact of misfortune, I asked my subjects to imagine being in a bank. Suddenly, an armed robber enters and fires a shot that hits them in the arms. Unlucky people tended to say this would be their bad luck to be in the bank during the robbery. Lucky people said it could have been worse: “You could have been shot in the head.” This kind of thinking makes people feel better about themselves, keeps expectations high, and increases the likelihood of continuing to live a lucky life.
Learn to Be Lucky
Finally, I created a series of experiments examining whether thought and behavior can enhance good fortune.
First came one-on-one meetings, during which participants completed questionnaires that measured their luck and their satisfaction with six key areas of their lives. I then outlined the main principles of luck, and described techniques designed to help participants react like lucky people. For instance, they were taught how to be more open to opportunities around them, how to break routines, and how to deal with bad luck by imagining things being worse. They were asked to carry out specific exercises for a month and then report back to me.
The results were dramatic: 80 percent were happier and more satisfied with their lives — and luckier. One unlucky subject said that after adjusting her attitude — expecting good fortune, not dwelling on the negative — her bad luck had vanished. One day, she went shopping and found a dress she liked. But she didn’t buy it, and when she returned to the store in a week, it was gone. Instead of slinking away disappointed, she looked around and found a better dress — for less. Events like this made her a much happier person.
Her experience shows how thoughts and behavior affect the good and bad fortune we encounter. It proves that the most elusive of holy grails — an effective way of taking advantage of the power of luck — is available to us all.
(read the original article here)
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Good post GL.
I personally have a lot to be thankful for in my life, but what I am most thankful for is God giving me the opportunity to make my life better every day. I would honestly be six feet under right now without His help. And just like the article said, I have seized those opportunities when they arise. It is all about perspective. It is best told with a joke:
You have to BE positive. Otherwise you are A negative.
OK, enough bad jokes from me.
To all my Western friends – Happy Thanksgiving!
And to my friends from the FSU -
may God bless your giving,
may you give thanks for God’s blessing,
and may happiness be the result!
Love and Peace always.
Open Arms
Though I was born in the year of the rabbit, I’ve never put any stock into the zodiac and by no means consider myself lucky. I can envision myself being one of the unlucky but obedient participants in the study who actually counted the number of photographs in the newspaper. However, if luck was the answer to success then I’d be playing the lottery. Does playing the lottery more often make me a better player or if I won $10 million tomorrow would I still have that and more 40 years from now? The answer isn’t fooling with happenstance but learning to be more proactive and disciplined. I believe our lives are shaped by the minute choices we make everyday and I’m beginning to realize, if I worked as hard at finding a spouse with the same positive and focused approach as I do to conduct my business I would be married tomorrow. After all, the harder I work, the luckier I become.
Mick,
I’m with you! If I was told to count pictures, I would be counting pictures, not reading the paper to see if there was some hidden trick to avoid performing the task at hand.
In the 60s IBM, a leader in their day for developing executives up from the ranks, did similar testing to see who was most proficient at following various plans and strategies. Those who searched for a way to circumvent the exercise before completing it as assigned were subsequently let go. Those who completed the task quickly and with the intended results were trained and employed. And those who did well on the exercise and then made sound suggestions to streamline the project were moved into executive training. I wonder if the fellows in the last group were considered lucky by the ones that were not hired.
To paraphrase your closing line, ‘the harder we work, the luckier we get’.
rw_man,
We agree on so many things that I sometimes hesitate to contradict your posts. Here, however, I wish to add to what Mick has said and I have reaffirmed regarding luck.
Speaking to the topic, You Can Make Your Own Luck, you say in your first line that your life there “is a testament to this” and in closing you say the life you have now “proves it”. In your heart you probably believe that it is because your choice to move over seas brought you good fortune, or luck, in a personal sense.
My contradiction comes from your line, “I just decided to start walking towards it”. Now that’s the way to view it! The fact that you made a decision and then did the work required to fulfill that dream and reach your goal despite whatever hardships it created had very little to do with luck.
If I win a lottery the first time I buy a ticket, that’s pretty lucky and there is nothing I could have done to ‘make’ myself win. I have shown no history of relentless effort and there was certainly nothing I could have done to affect the winning numbers that were drawn. If I have bought 10 tickets for every drawing over the past 10 years and I win, I am still lucky because there was still no power that I could have contributed to the results coming in my favor. I may have some higher probability based on the number tickets purchased over the number of years playing, but it is still, essentially, just luck. On the other hand, if I have taken the same ten dollars each week over the course of 10 years and have faithfully put it towards something equal in value to that lottery win, I have cashed in on diligence and effort, not luck. I wasn’t ‘lucky’ that I stuck to my plan until it paid off. And despite the fact that many of us are lucky to be alive based on bad habits, high risk lifestyles or whatever, the truth is we still have no control over being ‘lucky’.
Give yourself the credit you deserve for making a plan and following through with it. If it has all turned out exactly as you had envisioned it would then you have executed your plan well. Any subsequent opportunities that have come up because of that plan are bonuses and if you wish to call them luck, okay, but I still think it is all a part of what you made happen by committing to and completing what you set out to do.
Hell, if I had either of the above, two pictured lovelies, then I’d be lucky too-ha!
I’m thankful for the fact there’s still lovely young ladies in the world like the two pictured above…..:-)
Taras
Hello rw_man
Yes I have to agree with you – we can literally make your own Luck!
Bless… Melina
Hey thanks for this pic aswell.
I’m a total sucker for dark hair women.
Jesus! the one on the right is like a living doll.(make sure she reads my compliment in case she doesnt think she is beautiful.)
Soooo beautiful!
Im in awe.
Happy holidays.good job.
Welcome aboard & thanks EZ..
Yes I understand what you mean…
The beautiful lady on the right is an old friend of mine named Anna from Kazakhstan.
You can also catch another glimpse of her here.
http://russianwomentruth.com/2006/12/06/a-russian-girl-in-germany/
Hi Richard,
Thanks for the comment.
I feel that if Einstein taught us anything about the universe it would probably be that everything is relative.
And I think that’s the key thing here.
I feel from personal experience that anyone’s ability to see their life in terms of fortunate or not, dramatically alters the physical reality around them.
To what degree is life based on things like chance, fate and other things we cannot control?
Obviously no one can answer this question just like you can never pin point an electron’s exact position in an atom.
But the point I’d like to make is that to some level we really do create our own realities.
Some people are more gifted then others in this realm. And really I’m no different from any kid on the playground who just learned a new coin trick to show off.
I just simply know that “something” is there.
And I also know that it is up to all of us individually to discover it’s depth and power.
Wow! Living in the land of the most beautiful ladies in the universe! And another thing, your native country is going to h*ll in a hand basket, so more reasons to be grateful that you are no longer there, but in Mother Russia!
http://onlinejournal.com/artman/publish/article_4059.shtml
hello GL
I wish to congratulate you on your well designed site: it serves a real need. Im an australian man in search of a wife, and have decided on the FSU path, aware of its pitfalls. Im using Anastasia-international, about which im aware there are doubts, but the cross section of women shows not all are super models, so ensuring it has some genuineness.
im coreesponding with one lovely lady who has not asked for money, nor has she tried to get me to help her to my country. A sample of the correspondance is below:
Excerpt from her letter:
‘You asked me what sort of future I envisage , of course ,like a normal woman I’d like to have a special man beside me, I want to live with him all my life meeting all pleasures & all problems together , I dream about cosy place live in with him, I’ll cook for him, cherish him & would like to have his attention to me in return, I’d like to have many common interests with him, I want him to be proud of me, in return he will have my love, faithfulness, respect .
I think that relocation to another country is not a problem for me , the most important ,of course ,to create good relationships with my man in any place /
Yes, I live in a flat , as a rule our flats here are very very small comparing with houses in other countries .
My dreams connected with the family life , of course, I’m looking for real love and decided to widen my search in internet ,because
I know some happy stories of girls married to Australian men .
….
I’m native to the Crimea . It would be wonderful if you decide to come to the Crimea , you will enjoy your trip , I promise ‘
She seem genuine. What is your opinion GL based on your experience.
Ive just turned 50, shes 31.
many thanks
Brian
Hi Brian welcome aboard.
I know this may be a bit daunting but try to take the time to read through this site and find other similar situations that may give you the insight you are looking for.
In short this lady sounds legit but I would treat any correspondence as less then 20% of the courtship process. Your age differences are no big deal and any lady in this part of the world who is 31 and not married is going to be very serious about creating a family while she still can.
Good luck to you and your mates down under..
GL
Hey Brian, congratulations for making such a wise decision. Have you also looked at http://www.dream-marriage.com? I think it’s even better than anastasia. Good luck.
Hi GL and Hero,
Thanks for your comment. Ive read a lot of the posts on your site and know your 80/20 rule!Which is just common sense!
Naturally, theres a measure of anxiety on my part…(being an Earth Dog in the chinese calendar), so i am proceeding with care.
I had studied russian for a year back in university, as im interested in russian classcial lit. Bit rusty , but i shouldnt have any problem relearning it. Tell your posters that contrary to what some people say, russian is easier to learn than english…as its more regular. The main hurdle is the different script and sounds. And yes, russian is a lovely sounding language.
I also have learned that surprisingly russian is commmonly spoken in the crimea and odessa regions.
The impression i get from those women ive contacted, and they are between 27 and 42, is that they are intelligent, caring, down to earth, very fit, and respond well to kind words and any signs the man has been a caring son. They view the latter as promising a good relationship. They also like men to be well educated affectionate, romantic, and who will listen to them and pay attention to what they think. Thats very important. The women ive corresponded with arent cupie dolls. If they have children, they certainly appreciate any attention to them.
kind regards
Brian
I just have to throw my two cents in here. I have personally worked with Anastasia and a few other sites. Anastasia for about 8 months. Based on my experience, I cannot recommend them. I think they do some things well, but other things are just not helpful. I got lots of scam emails from ladies that had no idea they had written to me, and other such annoyances. Most of the other sites had the same issues. I have not heard much about dream marriage Hero, but it looks to me like an Anastasia clone, so I would tread lightly.
However, I have been with another agency for over a year now and I highly recommend them. A Foreign Affair. I have personally met the owners and other people who work for them. They are all quality people who really care about their clients, men and women! I have talked with past clients and they couldn’t recommend a better company. And the quality of the ladies is excellent as well; lots of marriage-minded, moral, attractive girls to choose from. http://www.loveme.com if you are interested.
If marriage agencies are not your thing, that is fine. But if you are looking for a great one with a good reputation and excellent service, A Foreign Affair is gold!
Hello Open Arms,
Thanks for the comment. I have received a couple of addresses of women on Anastasia, so i am in a position to check if they are real, by sending them cards or flowers.
Also,on Anastasia some women have posted videos, that show they do exist. Also one woman sent in a letter a photo of herself. A table tennis player and trainer, the photo is a normal one (and yes, it was her), allowing me to see how the studio photos are indeed sometimes done up!
But of course, we cant be sure until we go and see for ourselves…thats why is wise to reign in ones romantic impulses in the early stages.
regards
Brian
If people arent aware, i should like to point out referring to the recent Forbes article about ‘Raining Blondes’ in Turkey, that the blond streak in Russia is thanks to the scandanavian vikings! Russia is where one can see european beauty meeting and merging with asian beauty.
Brian
Whatever you do, stay away from Elena’s Models (www.womenrussia.com). The women there are no better than American women, IMO.
Sorry, I just want to clarify my previous post a bit. I am not saying the profiles on Anastasia are scams so much as I am saying that their business practices are a bit questionable. Indeed, many of the profiles on Anastasia can also be found on other sites, including AFA, and they are very likely real girls. I just know that Anastasia runs their business in the same manner that many other scam sites do (sending form letters en masse, allowing women to contact you first, purchasing “tokens” for contact, etc).
I agree Brian that we need to actually see the girls for ourselves, and they have to see us, before real love can happen. That is why I chose AFA over Anastasia, because AFA is committed to making that meeting happen, whereas Anastasia tends to be more bait and switch. I would rather know for a fact that I am going to meet many amazing girls on my trip overseas, than to get over there and find out the girls are not who they claimed to be (or not even there at all).
Everyone is free to use whatever means they find best to find that one true love for life, but since it is such an important decision, I want to spare no expense and work with the best to ensure the best chance for success. And for me, that is AFA. I wish you the best of luck though Brian, and I hope you find true love.
I agree Hero. Elena gives some good information on her site, but the agency itself is not of the best quality.
FYI for people unfamiliar with Winston Wuis writing on this subject. Very good article…also check the replies he has received.
’12 Reasons Why Russian Women are NOT Desperate to Leave Their Country’
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2) Second, as I mentioned above, most of the women that are in those online marriage agencies are NOT there for the sole purpose of getting out the country. They are there because there is a shortage of good men in their country who behave decently and can financially provide for them (see the next point on surpluses and shortages) and they want to see if they can meet such a man for them. IF they meet that right man, THEN they will consider relocating to his country if he wishes. But their main objective is NOT to get out of their country!
Now, if you want to claim that some of these Russian women want a foreign man because he has more money and is a better provider, that may be a factor, but you’ve also got to ask yourself, how is that any different from an American woman (or any woman for that matter) who wants a partner who is financially stable and a good provider for the family? Such double standards are too prevalent in our society. Motives are not mutually exclusive, contrary to what some ignorant people want to believe.
Also, even with the ones that want to leave their country, at least they want to leave with someone they LOVE and is COMPATIBLE with them, not just anybody! Just because someone wants a foreign mate doesn’t mean they’ll take anyone! Common sense should tell you that. Think about it and put yourself in their shoes. If you wanted to move to a country by marrying someone there, would you take anyone, or something you are compatible with and love? Likewise, if an American woman wanted to have children and raise a family, do you think she will just marry anyone who could give her that? No, of course not. She would want the right person for her and her future family, someone she’s compatible with who has the qualities that she desires, who could capture her heart and provide for her. So would you say then that her ONLY motive for being with any man was just to use him? Obviously not. So why would it be any different for a Russian woman who wanted to marry a foreigner? People are so quick to believe the worst about others, which is sad because it marks a sign of a dysfunctional psyche.
3) Third, in Russia there is a big SURPLUS of attractive mentally healthy single women, rather than a shortage like in the US. In the US there is a surplus of nice good single men and a shortage of nice attractive mentally healthy single women. As a result, even the less attractive women in the US can afford to become pickier, and good single American men can easily have trouble finding available decent women. Just go to any bar or nightclub in the US and you’ll see that usually the men outnumber the women. And even the unattractive women in those places seem like princesses to the surplus of disgruntled chumps there. It’s a really pathetic scene for the nice guy.
But in Russia, the deck is stacked in the average man’s favor rather than against him like in the US. The surplus of available women is another factor in why Russian women are friendly and approachable. ‘
etc
http://www.planetpapers.com/Assets/6190.php
Brian,
Just wanted to add my thoughts to your recent post. Hope it doesn’t come off as critical or argumentative.
Wuis’ points are clear regarding the “just anyone” concept. “Likewise, if an American woman wanted to have children and raise a family, do you think she will just marry anyone who could give her that?” and “Common sense should tell you that (she wouldn’t).” But one key thing to remember in that analogy is that in NA (unlike most other countries) women WILL marry almost anyone to pad their finances for use after the inevitable divorce. It’s nothing more than “divorce for profit” and NA courts not only allow it, they actually promote it in many cases. Though there have been some advances in combating this mentality, the American and Canadian family court systems consistently show women far more consideration than their male counterparts, even when those women have drug and alcohol problems, depression and other mental illnesses or infidelity issues, as well as when the marriage has only lasted long enough to surpass most annulment guidelines, and even when ALL of the financial assets were provided by the man. Secondly, when you refer to average, modern, NA women and common sense together, you are saying something akin to “government intelligence” “honest lawyer” or “safe investment”.
So my point is NA men have every reason in the world to be as suspicious as they are and hopefully that’s an area where we can help to educate our peers.
The article is right on target with the points and perceptions about everyone “wanting” their own special someone, but it has become painfully clear to me that NA women are well past the point where ‘who’ they marry is more important than ‘how much’ he’s worth, and its not for a life of security for her children but rather so that she can set herself up financially for the end of the marriage. “So would you say then that her ONLY motive for being with any man was just to use him? Obviously not”. I totally disagree. It has become far more obvious that these “users” greatly outnumber the honest, marriage and family oriented women in NA and have for quite some time. With a NA divorce rate for the first five years of marriage hovering around 60% you would have a hard time convincing me that the majority of these people are well meaning, marriage minded, and seriously committed to each other, but just seemed to have made bad choices. What’s more, I don’t think that most of these men are motivated by the possibility or are looking forward to being financially wiped out in divorce so I have to say a lot of women DO marry just about anyone, just so they can use them.
I have spent much of the last 8 years in and around the family courts in Seattle and Vancouver and I can say without hesitation that the NA female psyche is trained, practiced and proficient at “divorce for profit” marriages. It has become nothing less than an industry for feminism and proliferation of the whole feminist agenda.
This line of thinking must also be considered in the entire prospect of bringing a foreign wife to NA. Men must concede the real possibility that once here, these women could realize the financial rewards for leaving the marriage. All the more reason for caution with these twenty year age gaps that so many NA men are talking about here.
Overall, regarding the Winston Wuis article I’d have to say there isn’t any earth shaking news there. Even though his underlying concept is right on the mark, the entire article pretty much reinforces the very reason that so many men are looking at this option for their future. I don’t think that most of the men here are under the misguided impression that FSU women are lining up at train stations and airports looking for the very first opportunity to get out of town. If that were the case, it would go against the values these men seem to be searching for, which are entirely centered on developing family and lifetime security. I know that I would not be interested in some woman who was so anxious to leave her country that she would do it without first developing a normal, loving relationship over a realistic period of time.
Personally, I think the strongest point in Wuis’ article is the one about starting a relationship via a simple pen pal site rather than “cash and carry, quickly marry” type of web sites. Even though all of those so called marriage sites are fun to peruse, with all of the beautifully photographed women and promises of honesty, loyalty and faithfulness, I think most of us know how filled with deception many of those ads are.
Both are really very beautiful and gorgeous…
There as a huge Russian Documentary here about Russian Mail Order Brides. A few left the American Man because he wasn’t rich. They were having a problem finding a wealthy man in Russia and the USA. Many leave the husbands who aren’t rich here. I once watched about a divorce where the woman came back to Russia because she wasn’t pleased with a man.
There is a problem with women who want to be ordered by men. Many times they try to get on his will and get his money. This is a problem with any Mail Order Bride. If a man has to order a woman, there is a major reason.
When a woman loves a man she does tend toward sarcasm and will shame him. If that means I have an ego and I am feminist, I am sorry. I honestly believe in honesty and supporting a man in honesty. Not glorifying his wrongdoing. I’d hope if I were wrong I was insulted for that. That is true love.
A bit more on topic to the original article:
I’ve always been one of those people who have felt lucky all their life so this article was of particular interest to me.
For a long time I’ve rather suspected it was simply because of my outlook, and the “reality” I shape around myself and choose to perceive, as GL said.
I think you can even boil it down simply to whether you are naturally optimistic, or pessimistic. On average, as many “bad” things must randomly happen to us as “good” things. As an optimist though, I tend to shrug off and actively forget the bad, but focus on and remember the good. The net effect is that I feel “lucky” and am happier for it.
The way you approach life also helps. Mixing it up a little can increase your chance of stumbling on something different. I’ll often differ the routes I take, even taking massively sub-optimal ones and many times I’ve seen or experienced something I wouldn’t have otherwise. If people offer to buy me drinks and ask what I’d like, as a rule I respond “I’ll have whatever your having” – not because I’m indecisive, I have my preferences – but because so does everyone else, and I often end up with something I wouldn’t have thought of having myself, it breaks me out of a routine and I experience new things.
In terms of women and dating, this sort of attitude can really shine through. Adopting a happy-go-lucky way of life is much more appealing to a woman than a pessimist, I believe.
With regard to the experiment with the paper and the pictures, I think I’d have noticed the text. As far as I’m concerned, it’s all about being able to see the “wood for the trees”. If you have a goal that you adhere to rigidly (counting the pictures), you can develop tunnel-vision and miss the things in the peripheral. Instead, using goals as something loose, somethint to be reached but without thinking to hard about the hows, you become more open to chance encounters. This particular outlook has landed me stumbling on some interesting business that were I not receptive to it, would have missed.
Interesting article, thanks GL.