I’ve received some emails mostly from Women in the U.S. who are asking why I supposedly don’t talk about any of the “bad” aspects of Russian Women.
Or in other words it’s been suggested that I’m only portraying a one sided picture.
Okayy.. Well here’s the deal..
One
It should be totally obvious that ALL cultures and countries have both good and bad elements of people to them..
OF COURSE Russia has it’s share of “bad girls” who choose to engage in all the nasty self-destructive stuff you Men are already familiar with in your own countries.
So as far as reporting this goes.. If any negative information comes up about Russian Women that is relevant to an existing post it will usually come up in the comments section that follows it.
Now keep in mind that in various future posts I’m sure I’ll delve more deeply into some of the negative stuff that I see as it comes up.
Two
Do we really need to spend more time and energy talking about the bad stuff over the good? In my mind it’s not like we need to beat a dead horse on issues you commonly see in Women from your own countries right? The whole point to this blog is to let you Men know what the good stuff is and to get you focused on it so you can best bring this into your own lives.
Or in other words..
Real success is based on Planning to Win..
It is NOT based on Trying NOT to Fail.
Do you understand the difference? It’s subtle but very powerful… and very true..
Three
More then anything.. the underlying motive behind this blog is to create a personal CELEBRATION.
It’s simply a celebration of the incredible beauty, strength, and femininity that I have experienced here in far greater concentrations then anywhere else in the world.
Celebrations are important milestones in any culture. It reminds us and the generations to come of what our values are.. and it records into history the things that we most cherish and adore.
I firmly believe in the principal of the Tao (or Yin and Yang) which states that for every element of beauty there is a dark side from which it sprang.
There is more then enough information in the world about that dark side. You are bombarded with this every waking moment of your life as you “plug-in” to modern society. Our media has never been driven by good news. Bad news always serves the agenda of it’s master’s and there is more then enough brainwashing to go around for every man, woman and child on this planet.
So when you ponder this.. ask yourself a question..
When was the last time modern society gave you permission to truly appreciate real and timeless beauty?
Well I’m still searching for one solid example of this myself..
You are probably still searching too.. because most if not all of what we are “fed” by modern society has become JADED beyond belief.. and it’s this Jadedness that leads to huge numbers of us dying inside from the slow poison of losing our innocence and our souls.
No folks.. It’s because of this.. that I make no apologies for doing what I’m doing.. and for communicating the things that I do.. how I do it..
Because quite frankly.. there just doesn’t seem to be enough good news these days to go around..
And I’d like to do my small part to change that…
And hopefully a few of you out there will too..
Because I sincerely believe I have a key formula for this transformation..
And this is something I’d like to share with you..
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Hello RW_Man, I admire your desire to protray the truth and give everyone a uplifting hope. But recently I dated a russian exchange student at my univeristy. I too am a Grad student. I ended it. The reason I ended it is b/c I found her moral standard is very low to almost none existing. She told me that she is dating a 60 year old man from her dance class. This is ok with me b/c we haven’t started to date exclusively. But what really alarmed me was that she told me that she is going dating this 60 year old man not because she is attracted to him or want to get to know him, but b/c he would teach her how to drive. I found it very amoral. I now in business and real world, people use each other all the time. But I would draw the line at playing other’s emotion for your end. This to me is beyond being Makavelian.
So in essence, I admire your effort to show the positive of things, but I think the negatives should also be shared so us WM will know what we are potentially getting ourselves into.
Hi WM,
Thanks for your comment.. As I’ve mentioned many times before.. we have our saints.. and we have our sinners.
The good news is that we have many saints here WM. AND they are much more accessible then what you are used to with Western Women.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that all Russian Women are bad or manipulative because you’ve had a rotten experience with one.
I could understand you feeling this way if you met a hundred of them who acted like this.. but not just with a single one.. get it?
Now fortunately for you.. I have met hundreds if not thousands of them in their native environment. This experience forms the foundation for the premise behind this site. AND it gives me absolute faith that what I’m promoting with you guys is the way to go..
Ignore this chick and move on..
And for God’s sake don’t let this girl’s stupid actions and attitude ruin YOUR OWN chance to find something truly valuable in your life. Because this would be a cruel irony on you if you let that happen..
Take Care, GL
In any culture, there will always be good and bad people. The internet is littered with Russian women scam artists but to beleive that these people are representative of the Russian women in general is truly preposterous. The meesage here for any man wanting a foreign bride is to be very careful and do extensive research.
The first real warning should be if she would like to speed up the relationship process.
Asking for money is another sign. No Russian woman with a proper upbringing will NEVER ask a stranger for money. There were many times, I insisted on giving them money, because they used their savings for being a good host to me.
Also, a huge age gap of 25 to 30 years is another troubling sign. My age gap with my fiancee is 9 years.
Talk to them. Study their moods, actions and interactions with others. Trust me, she will be studying you too.
Do not talk negatively about former girlfriends or ex wives. Especially, ranting on the evils of Western women. A chip on your shoulder is not an attractive quality.
Good advice for meeting women anywhere, not just in Russia. Especially the last point, a chip on the shoulder is self defeating.
Taras
Again a gem of a post GL – thanks man!
You have to wonder whats going on in the hearts and minds of people (in the media/culture/feminists/ or “experts”) who always have to tell the horror stories.
Is it a reflection of how they see the world? is it whats going on inside their own hearts? Or is it on such a mass scale as the modern media something more sinister?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness
Learned helplessness is a psychological condition where a human or animal has learned that it is helpless. It feels that it has no control over its situation and that whatever it does is futile. As a result it will stay passive when the situation is unpleasant or harmful
Not all of the dogs in Seligman’s experiments, however, became helpless. Of the roughly 150 dogs in experiments in the latter half of the sixties, about one-third did not become helpless, but instead somehow managed to find a way out of the unpleasant situation in spite of their past experience with it. The corresponding characteristic in humans has been found to correlate highly with optimism; however, not a naïve pollyanna optimism, but an explanatory style that views the situation as other than personal, pervasive, or permanent.
Nice comment Joe.. thanks for the input..
Hi Max welcome aboard!
You are absolutely right about what you said.. I tend to look at who has anything to gain by cutting down Russian Women in general and propagating the horror stories.
If we let this spread unjustly then there is clearly a winner.. ie feminist.. and clearly a loser.. ie us Men.. Actually make that 2 losers.. us Men and the great and deserving women here as well. It’s a total shame in my mind because I see lost potential here all the time.. Lost potential in terms of some awesome woman who doesn’t have a decent chance in finding a stable and life long partner.
To me it’s a little like watching the Movie Seabiscuit.. except Seabiscuit get’s shot down before he can make the finish line.. I swear that’s how if seems sometimes..
Anyways.. all of you guys have been great in helping me to do what I can to turn this around.. thanks again!
GL
Joe said:
“Do not talk negatively about former girlfriends or ex wives. Especially, ranting on the evils of Western women. A chip on your shoulder is not an attractive quality.”
That’s good advice. But it raises the question: what do you tell Russian women when they ask you why you’re looking for a wife in Russia?
Rw_man, what do you tell Russian women when they ask you why you moved to Russia?
I’d tell them that I prefer QUALITY over QUANTITY… unless of course the quality comes in mass quantities
Hi Hero,
First off there is no shame in coming to Russia either for a visit or on a more long term basis. Most of the people are always fascinated by your reasons for coming.
Really the most important thing you can do is to stay upbeat and positive. So with this in mind there are many different types of answer you can give that are all true..
“I came to find the best women in the world!” (they always love to hear that..)
“I came for adventure and love.”
“I came to meet women like you..”
“I heard many great things about Russian women and I wanted to find out for myself if they were all true..”
Just say whatever is in your heart.. put a big smile on and say it with confidence.. and you can’t go wrong big guy..
Hero,
All you have to talk about is your interest in Russia. That will be a great starter.
Immerse yourself in the history, culture and language. A Russian woman will be intrigue by your hobby. Also, talk about hobbies that have a hidden meaning. Besides just waste of time. Like a martial art. It shows concentration, dedication and self discipline. Qualities in a happy and functioning marriage. Be the complete opposite stereotype of an American male that is being projected by TV, movies and the rest of the pop culture sewer. Develop an ‘international’ perspective.
Talk about other cultures. I have noticed a lot of Russians are developing an interest in Asian cultures. My fiancee is always fascinated that I lived in Japan as young kid for 3 years.
Then move on to your hopes and dreams. Your views on relationships. Trust me you will have plenty to talk about.
The one major barrier you will have to overcome is the language differences. GL and myself have an inside advantage. We can speak the language and have visited or have lived in Russia. I am 32 years old. I started to learn Russian when I was 16. My first visit to the nation was when I was 21 as an exchange student between my US university and Moscow State University. I went back after finishing grad school to teach English at a school.
Hi Joe, language barriers: do most of this woman speak some English or German? And if I go out to Siberia in one of these cold days without speaking any Russian, is this a wise thing? I mean I could learn some Russian, but not in a month or two. And honestly after I read GLs posts I am completly hungry. This is an absolutly amazing blog by the way: I love it
Hi Hayo,
Welcome aboard! Many women in Siberia speak either English or German but it is still wise to have a guide if you plan on coming out alone.
You can email me at galacticlove at gmail.com and I can see what I can do for you.
Thanks for your wonderful feedback on my blog by the way.. I truly appreciate it..
If you are completely hungry then there are many things out here that would feed and nourish your emotions and soul. Talk to you soon.
Cheers GL..
Wonderful idea Indeed. I’m Russian, living in Ireland, I’m amazed that you-
“da Western fellas” decided to dedicate this blog to this Topic.
…I hear dirt all the time, not just about Russian women, but in general as well. Yes there are a lot of “light-headed” [~prostitude]say in Moscow, but probably no more than in Amsterdam.
and Yes, the essence of “Russian mind” is to think of the tricks that the Western world wouldn’t probably think about… i.e. scams.
BUT
not being big headed, Russian women are different in a lot of POSITIVE ways.
They are
-stronger charactered (the Extreme Russian weather and the History as well);
-look after themselves more or at least make more effort to look after themselves (face-makeup, figure-muscles, clothes-neat)
[btw no offence to women of any other nations!Women do vary, but I'm speaking of the MASS here, not the minority]
-romantic (just look at the reading list in US/UK/Irish schools and the Russian schools, the time when your mind is being shaped by everything around you, Russian men and women absorb all this Tolstoy, Pushkin, Gorky perception of life/love/relationship)
ok. may be i am a bit old fashioned for my age… but I do have the evidence that I am quite a “representative” of the Russian “average”, in short typical Russian mind set girl. (at least used to be at some stage before I moved to Ireland)
-serious. Oh, yes, Irish girls/women are way less serious about their men. May be because there is 40 Russian women for every man in Russia and 4 Irish women for every Irish man – may be, but it is not just about statistics I think.
-very caring. Now, being abroad, away from my motherland
I came to realise how much I have been preprogrammed by my society/family/education. Preprogrammed to CARE . Yes. It is a funny realisation that Western people are not as caring or should I say express their care in more of a financial way rather than soul way [my opinion]
***Check this out:
“I am a woman. Yes, I’m here to leave my “imprint” in this world. But first, I am here to be with someone, that other half. If I am choosing to be with him, I’ll always be there for him. It is part of my life to look after him. I see he loves me, so I will be his – 100% his. I will caress him like he is my cat; cook for him like he is a child of mine; massage him because I want his body feel as free as mine does after a long bath; clean our place because it needs a womans touch and also for hygiene reasons;teach him new things that are obvious to me; let him take me to places he’d like to share with me…”
this is my Russian thinking. This is my “preconditioned” sort of care or something… something like I “have to do”, or more like “expected to do”. I don’t find it wrong, but i do indeed find it different to Western women.
a bit too long for a Comment
It’s just that I thought a lot about this whole Russian woman Vs Western woman thing and discovered a lot for my self. So I’m delighted you guys (and Girls?) have this blog that shows exactly what I think.
P.S. fortunately for me/unfortunately for men I am not a typical Russian mindset woman Anymore, so just take that into consideration when you read
Hi Masha!
A Russian Girl in Ireland eh?
I’m sure you get MORE then your fair share of attention over there and have made more then a little splash with the circle of people that you are exposed to..
I love it when real Russian Girls like you validate what I and many others are trying to communicate about the beauty, virtues, and values that so many of you ladies have.
It never ceases to amaze me that I live here and have finally been able to start this blog. I really didn’t know what type of response I would get when I started it but I have a feeling that I’m touching something real and important here for many people based on the responses that I continue to receive.
This site was actually a long time in coming. It was something I planned on doing years ago and of course part of me wishes that I would have started it earlier.. But I believe all things happen for a reason including your wonderful comments and surprise that so many of us Men would be devoted to this subject the way we are..
What else can I say? This is really all a tribute to you wonderful ladies and the way you brighten this world of ours..
Cheers! GL
GL
I’m an American man that lived in Russia for six years in a town called Glazov. I had to look 4 years to find a young girl that I would take for my wife. I found that most of them would try to use you to get what they won’t. There were a lot of aids and drug users. The older woman and the younger woman all would have sex behind there mans back. I found a good wife from there we now live in America with two children and are vary happy I’m 49 and she is 24. The thing is that I found that most of the woman there I would not bring back to America.
Hi Danny,
Thanks for your comment..
In the past the locals here have warned me repeatedly to not go looking for potential spouses in the various surrounding impoverished villages because of the state of decay that they were in. This decay extended itself into the the depressed and sullen character of the people who had a higher concentration of alcohol, drug abuse and lack of morals. When I’ve visited a few of these villages myself I could understand why this situation was so.
I don’t know anything about the town of Glazov but I can only assume that there were some similarities with what I’ve experienced.
I myself wouldn’t take home most of the girls that I find here either if I were to look at it the same way you put it.. but there are certainly many that I would and many of them are accessible.
The mere fact that you were successful in finding a wife who is 25 years younger then you even if it did take time tells me that you too understand the value of going to Russia for this purpose. If you are 49 and she is 24 and you have 2 kids already i assume that you at least got married 3 years ago when she was 21 and you were 46. That is a real challenge and I can see why it took you so long to find the right one because at that age many of them are not mature enough to get married and to take on that responsibility. Your task I’m sure would have been easier even if you found a woman who was 5 to 6 years older.
In anycase the bottom line is this.. you were able to achieve your dream but it took lots of trial and error and work and in the process you met plenty of women you wouldn’t want to be with.. Nothing new here. Like I’ve always said.. Russia has both good and bad women no doubt.. but the key thing is that their are plenty of good ones and they are much more accessible then what you would find in the states.
Anyways thanks again for your post.. Please keep on sharing..
GL
Very Interesting….but here is what I find to be the truth. And after putting my heart & soul, 2 years of my life & not to mention countless hours & thounsands of dollars, as well as 2 trips to the Ukraine, I feel I am somewhat qualified to make this conclusion Some of what is said is very true! Are they beautiful? Absolutley. Are they intelligent? Very much & some sly as a fox as well. Are they educated? Very well. (many in economics). Are they family oriented? Very much so. (so why would they leave thier families?) Most won’t. Are they sincere? That is questionalble. It is just now that some of the marriage agencies are finaly letting the truth out. The majority have on intention of leaving thier country. And for American men 98% of these women you are writing to will never step foot on American soil. Period. For love or not for love! Fact. Only 2700 women/or men from FSU (former Soviet Union) countries arrived in the U.S. last year on K visa’s. Considering that last I checked there were estimated over 250,000 (probably more like 300,000 now) of these women that are supposedly looking for someone to share thier lives with. That is less than 2% ever get on an airplane to the U.S. And considering the U.S. governments arrogant attitude toward the rest of the world, there is even less of a desire to be associated to an Americans now, and I can’t blame them. In any case, these are terrible odds, even for the rich & handsom. So for the average guy to catch one of these beautiful women, well good luck. I think that this is more about economics more than them finding love. Consider this. As mentioned, these women are very well educated (many in economics) they understand how it works. When they generate millions into local economies, they help themselves as well. I think one can point the finger at the agencies, who will tell you just about anything to get you to send money for the communications. If all it takes is a good job, a big heart & a trip to a FSU country, then why are there not more success strories on these agency websites. Look at Blue Sapphires, maybe 10 pictures of weddings & they have 25,000 girls. Foriegn Affair shows many, but what they say is “If any women asks to be removed from thier site, they are put on this page.” ??? To me that does not mean they are engaged to be married. You can pump these women up, you can put them down, they are flat out beautiful & intelligent & I would have made one of them a great husband! But when there is no desire or in most casses not intention to leave thier countries,(read Elena’s Models article on this topic) it is a very difficult task for anyone! And I do not put the blame on the ladies, I put it on the misrepresentation of the agencies & the perception they give on the desire of these ladies to be a bride. They would much rather marry a Russian, than an American & that is a fact. The claims of not enough men, I say is bogus, or you would see alot more success stories published, if marriage is really that important to them. So come to you own conclusions, but this is my reality of the situation. And make no mistake they are wonderful ladies, I love them all. But 2 years of playing this Brides game, has left guy emotionly bankrupt & I am sure I am not the only guy left feeling like this!!!!
P.S. sorry it is more than a statement, but I think men need to here this.
Sincerly, Jeff
I to have spent two years investing time into this search. Not near the monetary investment you mention Jeff, but enough. I’ve not made the trip yet but appreciate your insight and information. It’s duly noted and thanks for your input.
Canajun
Jeff, I agree with you on some points. But that does not change the fact that many American men have had it with American women. 300,000 American citzens are leaving the U.S. each year, and a good number of them are not coming back. There are those of us who would consider emmigrating to a FSU country rather than the reverse. That doesn’t guaruntee anything of course, but there are few quaruntees in life. One of which is that if one does nothing to make something happen, it won’t happen.
Taras
Better to get a nice Western European girl or Chinese girl. They are industrious and are willing to work and know that a relationship is work. Most all Russian women that have come to the US or want to come just want a free ride. The only way you’d find a good one is if you moved there and married a village girl. Be forewarned…
Masha. You certainly are an inspiration for me to keep going in the direction I am going. I know your post is olf but if you ever come back to read this. Thank you.
T.
i was wondering of someone could help me,i have a multiculturealism assignment for college and i picked the russia,i need to find out some customs and traditions and how specific cultural beliefs or traditions would impact the care i would give to them(im in college to be a contuning care aid(i help elderly and disabiled people(like would a man be disrespected if i touched him if i was helping him get clean)
im haveing a hard time finding some of this info,would input would help me so much
thanks