Don’t ask me where I heard this..
And it could be a total rumor for all I know..
But someone mentioned that Justin Timberlake was actually spotted in Belarus looking for a Girlfriend.
Now this is one of those things that on one hand surprises me.. but as you can guess on the other hand it dosen’t.
I assumed (and I’m sure most people would as well) that a young Man who was Britney Spear’s ex-boyfriend and a current Pop-Star Icon would be awash with the kind of female attention that would normally be reserved for… well guys like him..
When I heard this I started to remember an interesting event that happened to myself about 4 years ago…
For most Guys the decision to come to Russia is not one of those things that they just wake up to one morning with a light bulb shining above their heads. It’s a slow gradual process of learning, digesting and realization.
And this is certainly something that I understand well.
You’ll find that with most Men it takes about 6 months to a year for them to process the benefits vs. the risks before they really do wake up one day and say..
“This is what I’m going to do..”
Often times this takes a few “catalytic events” to happen before they finally smell the coffee and take a sip.
For me.. one of those key moments happened about 6 months before I came to Russia.
I was in a popular hang-out in Los Gatos called Mountain Charlies enjoying the Wednesday Night Karaoke Contest. Through some mutual friends I met a new acquaintance whom I’ll call Dave.
Dave had the classic California Surfer and Movie Star good looks.. Quite frankly this guy could literally have put Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt to shame. Blond, Tanned and Trim along with a down to earth and confident personality to match.
Dave was working for a Silicon Valley firm that had recently delivered an IPO and he was sitting pretty once again.. Because it turns out that this was the 2nd IPO within his career as a software engineer. The first one allowed him to purchase a beautiful hillside Los Gatos home along with his Ferrari Dream Car.. Not bad for a guy who was only 34 eh?
This was one of those guys who in my mind CLEARLY had it all and I was happy for him..
But Dave wasn’t happy. He had broken up with his girlfriend about a year prior and was now neck deep into the “Dating Circuit”. When Dave explained his situation you could hear the frustration and disillusionment in his voice.
“I can’t find any good girls..”
Now this seemed a bit ironic at the time given the fact that we were surrounded by more then a few young women in this club. So I simply asked him..
“Dave, you mean to tell me with all the great things going on in your life that you can’t find some beautiful girl who just totally digs you?”
He stared at his pint of Sam Adams.. took a long sip and sighed..
“I’ve dated lots of girls.. and so far the only ones that I’ve been out with have only acted like psychos or sluts… and I don’t want to end up with that for the rest of my life..”
I started thinking to myself.. How could a handsome, rich, young, outgoing guy like this end up in this situation?
This was not the kind of person who stayed at home as some socially un-acceptable hermit.. this guy was motivated in his life and he was a real go-getter.. he had to be in order to end up with the success he’s created for himself.
So what was it?
It certainly wasn’t because of his lack of “characteristics”..
Perhaps it was just bad “timing”..
Or just maybe.. it had something to do with being in a “bad” place..
Yup.. that looks like the culprit to me..
And this culprit certainly matched my own experiences in my home land.
So here before me.. In the form of a great guy with whom I was having a beer with..
Was the smoking gun I was looking for..
The smoking gun that simply indicated..
That there was NO WAY any Woman could by any stretch of the imagination call this guy a “Loser”.
So therefore a sad but emerging truth was becoming undeniable and a personal “catalytic event” was born.
“No.” I quietly thought to myself..
“It’s just the opposite.”
(to read part 1 click here)
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If a guy like that has a tough time finding a woman who’s not crazy, promiscuous or a witch, what about Joe Sixpack? The answer is easy, an average man just has no chance whatsoever in a situation like that, regardless of what country he’s in. Not when he’s surrounded by crazy ladies who like a category 5 hurricane can blow through and lay waste to the lives of anyone in their path. I’ve been there and done that, and won’t make that mistake again. I don’t regard all women as malefactors, but I learned the hard way one must be very cautious around them.
Taras
I am 20 years old and am thankful to know about this so early in my life. I will tell the gospels to my mates. The woman here dowunder arent even worth bothering with. Im saving my pennies for Russia boys!
Los Gatos or anywhere in Silicon Valley is not exactly the happy hunting ground for girls.
My friends and I were out in Sunnyvale last night, and we had a great conversation about how every fat chick in the world has decended on Sunnyvale.
Oddly enough, one of my friends is engaged to a girl from Belarus, and she’s going to arrive in about a month. I’ve been to Russia several times looking for my future wife, and plan to return in November.
I’ve dumped way hotter and classier girls than the hottest girl I saw in Sunnyvale last night, and done it without even thinking twice about it.
After you’ve been to the far side, the girls here are simply not interesting.
rw_guy, I’m just jealous that you get to LIVE in Russia. I love my work in Silicon Valley, and I can’t leave because I’m sitting on (literally) millions of dollars in stock options in the company where I work. I am *SO* itching to get out and move Russia or Ukriane….
Wow…
Just wow…
If a guy like Justin Timberlake is in Belarus looking for a girlfriend…just…wow (not on his decision to go there, he’s smart if he decided that). In all actuality though, I really wouldn’t be surprised. It’s very, very disturbing, but i’m not surprised. RW, do you think you’ll be able to hear more of this or find any authentication in this?
-LL
Here, well described, is the crux of the problem.
The women, generally and in majority, are not good long term partners here. They have major psychological issues that , due to the pandering to women here, are never addressed and never identified.
Personally, it’s the gleeful schizo – ness
thats the big red flag for me.
It’s not getting any better.
If Mr. Timberlake came to Siberia or Belarus then he’s a pretty sharp puppy for doing so.
At one point him an Cameron Diaz were an item.. but quite frankly Ms. Diaz could NOT hold a candle to the girls I’m surrounded with here physically or personality wise. So if J.T. really got wind of what’s happening here then I’m sure he would do the obvious.
I couldn’t possibly imagine dating some Hollywood Starlet.. not because she’s out of reach to me.. but because I can’t imagine the huge baggage of EGO that comes with that. And I’m sure any guy like J.T. would come to the same conclusion if he’s even the slightest bit travel savvy. Which of course he must be.
I hope J.T. catches wind of this site. Would love to give him my personal high five for taking this step if it’s true..
Hi Aaron,
Nice to know you feel the way you do..
A long time ago one of the wisest things I was ever told was from an older guy who was moderately wealthy and retired. He seemed to have everything but he looked at me and said that he was envious of me..
When I asked him why in the world he would say that he simply said..
“Because you have Time…”
This was truly one of the greatest pieces of wisdom I’ve ever received… and so now I pass it on to you big guy..
Aaron I truly appreciate how you are choosing to utilize this “Time”..
Thank you for sharing all of this with your Mates.. I have a great deal of confidence that you will have a much easier time finding your way over here and reaching your goal because of your openess and generosity..
Keep it up buddy! Cheers.. GL
Hi Greenlander..
Nice to hear from another local boy from my old stomping grounds..
I can only imagine where you were in Sunnyvale cause I’ve seen what you are talking about myself. Probabaly near the Town Center Mall area right?
Anyways.. it would be great to hook up with you when you fly over.. hope you can come to Siberia and check out what’s here. Drop me a note anytime.. Cheers.. GL
Hi Mirror..
I wonder just how “low” this situation can go that you describe with the women we all see. Just like with the USSR there has to be some type of social collapse at some point. I just can’t possibly fathom what form it will take and when..
Thank again for the comment.. GL
I’ve been to Omsk and Irkutsk. Hell, I was in Irkutsk on December 2-4 of last year, and it wasn’t that bad. The trick is to dress warm and drink vodka!
Yes, I was near the Town Center Mall on Murphy Street… at Fibbar McGees and Murphy’s Law.
Definitely drop me a line if you’ve over here, it would be great to trade war stories about you. The beer is on me!
Good day,
“Screwed Silicon Valley guys” describes a situation common to Western Europe and N. America.
Despite having created an awesome amount of wealth, opening the eyes of many other people in the whole planet in the process, Americans are the laughing stock of others when it comes to how their women treat them.
F. S. Fitzgerald’s “Great Gatsby” illustrates the point. It’s basically a silly story of a guy who gets fantastically rich only to earn the favour of an average girl who once turned him down.
With this kind of mentality it is no wonder stories like “…silicon valley guys” are true.
BTW the average Russian husband / boyfriend beats his wife / girlfriend regularly abt 4 times a week.
This is of course deplorable but it shows how far from American / W. European mentality are these people.
Greece being only 50% W. European (at best) offers some resistance opportunities to the normal male.
Brgds
rw_man Says:
September 30th, 2006 at 7:32 pm
A long time ago one of the wisest things I was ever told was from an older guy who was moderately wealthy and retired. He seemed to have everything but he looked at me and said that he was envious of me..
When I asked him why in the world he would say that he simply said..
“Because you have Time…”
Major kudos to you, RW, for recognizing the wisdom in what this man said to you. In our lives the only truly limited thing we have is time. It is always possible to make more money, and to buy more possessions, and unfortunately a lot of young men spend their most limited resource chasing the least valuable result. Time really is a lot like money – when you have a lot of it, you tend to waste it on things which gratify you for the moment but have no substance or lasting value. And, just like money, the less of it you have the less of it you are willing to waste on things which have no value.
So, to all the young men here – do not waste one precious second of your lives on the abominations that American and other westernized women have become. Just as you would not spend your last $10 on a DVD if you were hungry and had no place to live, do not waste 10 years, 10 days, or even 10 seconds of your precious lives on a shallow trinket which will not nourish you emotionally or spiritually, or provide you the shelter of an intimate relationship in a world which has been overtaken by shallow users.
Hello Greenlander an rw_man! What you say about Silicon Valley is so true. I have lived my whole life in Sunnyvale, but recently moved to SoCal. I still visit my parents and friends in Sunnyvale about twice a month.
The male-to-female ratio in Silicon Valley is the worst I have ever seen in my life. And even the women there are of low quality. I met a really cool girl there while I was a student at De Anza College… She was from Belarus, visiting her father for 10 months while he was on a work visa in San Jose. I got very lucky, and this girl was by far the most NORMAL female I ever met in Silicon Valley. I visited her in Belarus when she went back, and we were engaged for a while (it ended up not working out, but not because she was a bad person or anything). But anyway, my two weeks in Belarus opened up my eyes to just how awful the quality and quantity of women in Silicon Valley are.
Ever notice that EVERY evening you go to a bar in downtown Sunnyvale that it is a major sausage party??? That is not normal in most places in the world!
The women in Silicon Valley act like they are God’s gift to men and that their vaginas are made out of gold. Nothing could be further from reality.
I live in Santa Barbara now, and there is no shortage of attractive women here (it’s actually the 180 degree opposite of Silicon Valley in terms of QUANTITY), but the QUALITY of the women here in SB is pretty low. I mean, they are better than the girls in Silicon Valley in terms of quality (at least the women here are not “ghetto” like those in Sunnyvale), but that isn’t saying much.
I have a far easier time getting a date here in Santa Barbara, but even though the women are good looking, they do not even begin to compare with how hot the women were in Belarus. Also, Santa Barbara women don’t have much substance to them. They’re mostly quite shallow. But still better than Silicon Valley broads!
Anyways, rw_man and Greenlander, you two guys seem like you’d be fun to have a beer and trade stories with. I visit Sunnyvale two weekends out of the month on average, so let me know if you guys would like to meet up at a pub. The first round is on me!
Hmmm…. Los Gatos, I remember it vividly. I was there about 2 years ago. Dumping a screaming clone back in her nest up on the hillside. With great relief, I talked her into believing my friend and colleague was not the man for her. (no small feat)
Los Gatos area must be the west coast repository for amature,mentally/emotionally challanged and inwardly ugly,gold diggers? Good God, are they thick there!
Say… what are the chances of getting a mass quanity visa? Say about, 30 real women, Russian women, to vacation for a summer in Los Gatos? I think that should cull the herd. EH!
Don’t we wish that was possible. Kind of a secret fantasy that Dr. Evil has.. to march into town with about 30 of these fembots and watch all hell break loose..
Hello Trent..
Welcome Aboard Man..
Not fun growing up in that environment eh? Oh well at least you are all the more wiser now. Please tell your buddies what the real deal is and have them pay us a visit! Cheers, GL
Hello Zed..
Kudos to you too for your very valuable “2 cents” worth of major validation.. I truly appreciate it.
In my opinion if a Man is not shooting for the ultimate goal of finding a loving wife to build his future with then anything or anyone else that he is playing with is just wasted fluff.
It truly take lots of energy and time to do this right by coming here. But my logic has always been.. “So why wait? Lets get started!”
Anyways Thanks again and please tell your buddies.. GL
Hey Trent,
You can email me at
green_nvidian “at” yahoo “dot” com
Hell, I’ll even buy the beer. Beer is cheap, time is not!
Hello to everybody, I am the “russian woman” (Prague,Czech republic) who is offering wisdom on this site occasionally:-)
If all of you are talking about moving eventually to the East somehwere, try to be also aware of certain facts. Girls might be nice and American boys are highly demanded in the east, because they are so kind but…
think about the life-style. In the beginning you might be charmed by a girl-friend, there is much more arts and culture over there undoubtedly. The school system is public and one of the highest in the world, probably only Asians do better than eastern europeans in sciences. But…
On the average, people are arrogant, in czech we say that in Czechia, they will steal even the nose between your eyes. And still, Prague is fairily developped how about than the Ukraine or Romania? Every second day somebody will curse you, push you around in the subway or on the bus. My ukraininan friend told me, you have to bring your own gloves and a towell to go to the doctor. Drivers will openly pull you from a car and agress you only because you dared to respect the speed limit…It’s unfortunately the dark side of living in the East and you are even more vulnerable because you don’t speak the language. I am not discouraging you, just kind of warning you.
It sure sounds like the legacy of communism will take a long time to disappear Vendula. In a repressive or totalitarian society, people are cold and very suspicious towards each other. That is because such a society is not one where trust between people takes root. How could it when your neighbor might inform on you and the next day you get the dreaded knock at the door at 3 a.m. It’s going to take a long time for the social fabric to be repaired there. As for some of the behaviors you described, that sort of thing happens here, only you have the added risk of getting shot or stabbed for your trouble. There are some areas here that are just as bad, if not much worse.
Taras
Hi everybody!
Recently coming from Ukraine to US for IT consulting purposes.
Life that you are describing with “broken society fabrics” and “informing on neighbors” so on – are thoughts of people that never been there.Everything has two sides, when people from Germany coming to Ukraine, they told me about “west coldness” and “east warmness”. Hoping our country are on the right track.When somebody asking “How are you” this means that he cares – not just greetings. I can say – when time is going Ukraine become more and more “Europe-like”.
Last week – window of our office in sunnyvale was broken – and notebook was stolen in the nice “peaceful” place.
World is full of fools – it doesn’t matter when you are.
Silicon valley really is one of the oddest places in the world. Sometimes you will go out and literally not see any hot chicks at all, and if there are any, they are snatched up quickly by a rich guy. I dont understand why anyone would pay the horrible costs of living there and put up with the souless culture of SV. I grew up in SV for 22 years and now I live in Socal, where the options are much greater
Um, sorry, but all you guys are a bunch of d***heads. If you need an abused, desparate woman in order to get laid, then there is something wrong with you. You will be much better off marrying a confident, well-educated American girl who can pass good values down to your children. Or maybe you just need to be pushed off the cliff to make way for some real men.
Here you go… a typical angry woman.
Your attitude tells everything about you. You just scream from your own preconceived notion without looking for facts in order to have a civilized discussion. Just look at yourself and your existing beliefs that got you riled up??
How do you know about us as men? Have you ever find out about any successful men who come across this website? Did you put any effort to find out what’s going on?
Case closed. No discussion needed further…
“V” must stand for vacuum. I can see your lips moving but I can’t understand what you’re saying.
Obviously the “V” stands for vagina.
RW Man,
I had the pleasure of talking with a couple of Russian girls on the train yesterday. You can read about it on my blog; it’s the most recent post. Anyway, all I can say is WOW, what a difference!
I have to figure out a way over there myself. Even if it means sacrificing a second bike, I have to get over there. I forgot how lovely a sweet, FEMININE woman can be…
MarkyMark
If that’s because I no longer want to deal with angry, psychotic, amoral and ingrate western women, then I take that as a compliment Big V. Guilty as charged. My manhood is not in question, but your sanity is. Your remark about pushing people off a cliff smacks of someone who missed her daily dose of anti-psychotic medications. What you and your ilk haven’t caught onto yet is that you have pushed yourself and our society too over a very high cliff, and it’s going to be a very long fall for you.
Taras