I just became aware of a Russian Lady who is expecting a visit from an American Man this Saturday.
Obviously his trip to meet with her is more then just a platonic visit.
There’s one “little” problem though..
This woman is already in a serious relationship with a Man she lives with.
This woman is a physically beautiful petite lady who is 30 years old with very long blond hair and big blue eyes. She has a young son that is around 7 years old as well.
I don’t know who the Man coming to see her is so I don’t know how to warn him. I only hope he knows of my blog and can get this warning in time.
I really hate it when I see a local woman doing this. It’s such a bad deal for everyone and it just stinks to high heaven.. This is one of the biggest pitfalls I see when guys come out here because they have no trusted 3rd party reference to check what the real deal is on their “girl”.
Unfortunately for this American mystery man this woman is likely out to use him and keep him in the dark about her current relationship status. This is the kind of stuff that really hurts the cause but at the same time it is still important to let all of you know that it does happen so you still need to be extra careful. Please understand that I do not consider this scenario to be the norm and that the vast majority of Women out here are very honest and have integrity.
In any-case this is a text book example of why I offer some of the things that I do..
From what I’ve heard this guy has been planning this trip for around a year if not more. Boy is he in for one very rude surprise if he comes out only for her.. which I’m pretty sure is the case.
I would be pissed off if this was me..
Especially if it was my first time to Russia.
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I guess there is really nothing you can do about this particular case RW, except hope, as you say, that he knows of your site.
However, we could start to build a referral register which could, in time, be quite substantial and useful. If you like the suggestion, I would be only too happy to start something of that nature.
That is why I would first come to the country and get settled in, THEN see about meeting ladies there. It’s hard to be sure exactly what sort of person you’re meeting even if you’ve met them face to face. Meeting women through the internet or agencies is really a gamble because there’s no way to observe body language and other cues that would indicate something’s amiss. This situation shows there are “girls gone wild” in Russia just like the ones in the U.S., and that no matter where a man goes, he has to be careful dealing with women. That guy’s in for one hell of a letdown and nasty surprise, I hope he catches on before he flies to Russia.
Taras
All you can hope for is he would find out about you and this site.
If he does, he would have given her the boot then find out that there’s much more beautiful Russian girls so he can find anyone of them. So, it would make his life much easier.
If he gets so pissed off and offended by that girl, he might give up on Russian girls and tell the world how dishonest and manipulative they are based on just that girl. All we can hope for is that he avoids that trap and start to see the big picture.
I’m with you, Taras. I still don’t trust the Internet and dating agencies at all. I would rather to do the old fashioned way… moving to Russia, live there and date them in person instead of letters, e-mails and phone calls. People just create their own fantasy when writing letters that has nothing to do with reality. I’d rather to go through the traditional “job interview” like talking to her, testing her to make sure she’s the right person and go out to have fun with her to see her attitude and character. How would you know who that person is and how they act or their body language when you correspond with that girl?
I have heard so much of those love story of how men travel to Russia and met his girl there and marry about few weeks or a month after meeting that person for the first time. To me, it’s way too fast and a huge gamble. Personally, I really don’t like that fast and short process.
My own rule before courting a girl is start out as friends, getting to know each other well without falling in love. Over time of really knowing that girl including meeting and really get to know her family especially her parents and her friends, I can take the next step of dating and courting her.
For me, 2 to 3 years is the most minimum time of dating and getting to really know who she is before deciding to take the next step of courting and marrying her. Also, this is enough time for her to show her true nature and her habits. When you meet her for the first time, she may appear to be really sweet and nice and try to conceal her true color. Over time of getting to know her, she would start to reveal her true color, and you can see more and more about her habits and her pattern of personality and attitude. Would you like to live with a girl who has anger management issues, constantly getting so angry at you for no reasons or being a lazy and not doing anything? This is the reason why I’m taking the whole courtship process extremely slowly.
I’d rather to take things very slowly like a turtle. Marriage is really one of biggest change in your life. I’m taking this process extremely seriously, and I want to make sure I court the right person that would result in happiness, peace of mind and great life.
Don’t think dude will find your site!
He is too blinded by a song…
What kind of song you ask?
This kind!
“Well the Ukraine girls really knock me out.
They REALLY leave the West behind.
And Moscow girls make me sing and shout
That Georgia’s always on my mind.”
Who said virtue was a Grace…
“Leave it till tomorrow to unpack my case.
Let me hear your balalaikas ringing out
Come and keep your comrade warm.”
What can you DO?
Except sing a lil song…
I say it’ll be the do what you do what you do…to me …song!
Not that I agree…Just an observation from
a California dude.
Been there done that.
I agree with Taras. When I arrived in Russia at the age of 22, the last thing on my mind was dating. The transition from learning ‘text book’ Russian and experiencing the actual language was a learning experience. Also, the professors at MSU were not patient for the period of adjustment for the American student. Adapt or fail was their mentality.
I do feel sorry for guys who do not have the in country experiences and it is a huge gamble.
For every good experience there will be a few bad ones.
If you go through a service, be smart, be patient and commit yourself to researching the companies.
Remember, a little red flag can grow into a huge one down the road.
Adapt or fail eh? That’s real life in action Joe. It’s also what makes love between men women grow stronger, or tears them apart. I wouldn’t dream of meeting women that way from another country, it’s risky enough doing it with women from my own. As RW-Man said, what is accepted here will get you nowhere in Russia…..I’d want to stay long enough to at least learn the basic norms, customs, and a working understanding of Russian before taking it to the next level. Who knows, American men can learn Russian from ladies they meet there and vice versa, and that could be the way to find a lady there too….:-) There’s a lot about Russia and Ukraine I would like to learn more about.
Taras
Sorry for the misunderstanding Taras. I meant the professors at MSU treatment of me adapting from the US university perspective towards a Russian one. It was culture shock and it made me a better student.
I don’t recommend the Adapt or Die mentality for relationships. My approach is to just talk to them and let things happen in there due course.
“in their due course.”
She may be one of the bad ones, but for this westernised man he will end up seeing the magic in Russia anyway and realise the overwhelming majority is hot awseme women.